Thanks I’m cured! All my anxieties and masking and difficulties socializing from overstimulation have gone away because of your uninformed happy thoughts. Why didn’t I try that before?!
Why would I wanna change? I’m happy as an introvert, know that I have a limited energy in social settings and there is nothing wrong with that or need change. What are you on about?
You’re insisting that the frameworks some people use to understand the world are all made up (to be fair you aren’t entirely wrong). But the power of positive thinking bullshit is peddled by every grifter and their mother and is often the stick used by people who aren’t willing to acknowledge that depression isn’t all in your head.
It’s akin to saying, just go for a run and you’ll feel better. You may be right, but you are completely neglecting that medication is also useful possibly above and beyond a nice jog.
People can better themselves, but this particular category of argument ignores a lot of realities for people that need more than a pep talk.
Also, introvert and extravert are nice short hand terms for “probabilistically, I gain or lose energy from the average social outing”.
I’m not prescribing platitudes and positive thinking, I’m saying if you think you’re an introvert and you’re unhappy with it, you can change with practice and work. It’s hard work and you fall down a lot but you can have a very different lifestyle with far more opportunities to meet people, have relationships and get recognized in your career or study.
The problem I am outlining is that many people think this is outside of their capability because they are “An Introvert™” and that’s just a word, not a diagnosis of a disease.
Some people view a label as an ending. They put people into the box. Think no further, end of story. AKA “stereotype”. How you treat the person you just labeled with implicit bias forces them into that box because of your expectations and biases, conscious or otherwise.
Other people, who might pause for a second when they hear a label, will mentally decompress the label with tools like nuance and understand that the label isn’t monolithic. It’s a starting point. Not a stopping point. People are a spectrum. So if someone says they’re an introvert, we know they probably aren’t into crowded bars or large social situations. But you don’t get to tell them “If you don’t use the label you will change.”
It’s how you use the label when you interact with them, not how they use the label for themselves.
Thanks I’m cured! All my anxieties and masking and difficulties socializing from overstimulation have gone away because of your uninformed happy thoughts. Why didn’t I try that before?!
Try what? What exactly do you think I’m saying?
edit: If you’re happy with how you are, then there’s no problem.
Why would I wanna change? I’m happy as an introvert, know that I have a limited energy in social settings and there is nothing wrong with that or need change. What are you on about?
There isn’t any issue if you’re happy and no need to do anything. I feel like that should be pretty self-evident.
You’re insisting that the frameworks some people use to understand the world are all made up (to be fair you aren’t entirely wrong). But the power of positive thinking bullshit is peddled by every grifter and their mother and is often the stick used by people who aren’t willing to acknowledge that depression isn’t all in your head.
It’s akin to saying, just go for a run and you’ll feel better. You may be right, but you are completely neglecting that medication is also useful possibly above and beyond a nice jog.
People can better themselves, but this particular category of argument ignores a lot of realities for people that need more than a pep talk.
Also, introvert and extravert are nice short hand terms for “probabilistically, I gain or lose energy from the average social outing”.
I’m not prescribing platitudes and positive thinking, I’m saying if you think you’re an introvert and you’re unhappy with it, you can change with practice and work. It’s hard work and you fall down a lot but you can have a very different lifestyle with far more opportunities to meet people, have relationships and get recognized in your career or study.
The problem I am outlining is that many people think this is outside of their capability because they are “An Introvert™” and that’s just a word, not a diagnosis of a disease.
When there’s a label for everything, people tend to fit themselves to the label.
Some people view a label as an ending. They put people into the box. Think no further, end of story. AKA “stereotype”. How you treat the person you just labeled with implicit bias forces them into that box because of your expectations and biases, conscious or otherwise.
Other people, who might pause for a second when they hear a label, will mentally decompress the label with tools like nuance and understand that the label isn’t monolithic. It’s a starting point. Not a stopping point. People are a spectrum. So if someone says they’re an introvert, we know they probably aren’t into crowded bars or large social situations. But you don’t get to tell them “If you don’t use the label you will change.”
It’s how you use the label when you interact with them, not how they use the label for themselves.