I haven’t had contact with my family for a while and I’m so much better for it.This Thanksgiving we slept in half the day, played music, napped some more and read.
Someone still protests occasionally regarding how I cut my family off, but she’s still too soft on conservatives. You have to understand that nothing you say will change their minds in most cases. If you could have changed them or made them see reason then you would have done so a long time ago. Yes they are misguided, yes the system is at fault for the creation of this cult, but there isn’t anything you can do either. Put your own mental health first.
I made a decision about how to approach this situation. I’m not going to uninvite people and I’m not going to keep my opinions to myself if the topic comes up. But I’m also not going to proactively bring it up.
If politics does come up, then I will mostly ignore them until they inevitably say something super dumb and provably false, or completely immoral, at which point I will say something. I will call them on it, confronting them with things that are extremely difficult to argue against, and I won’t let them change the subject unless they concede or shut up. If they concede or stop responding, then I’ll change the topic to something non-political.
I will not talk about various political subjects, nor will I let them move the goalposts. I will simply argue the dumbest thing they said when they thought it was safe to say something dumb. I will not try to convince them, but I will use the truth to embarrass the shit out of them until they decide it’s just easier to make a truce and agree to keep quiet.
The point is just to take them out of their comfort zone so that they think before they speak for once. I ignore them unless I know I can win. I’m fairly lucky that I only have one MAGA relative who won’t listen to any reason. The rest of them, most of their problem is that they never hear an opposing view, and never thought about what they’re saying. As long as I stick to one point and don’t reject their entire belief system, I can win small battles.
Silence is not neutrality, silence helps the status quo. We need people to speak up and stir the shitpot.
…The R.S.V.P. will only be accepted with e box checked human. The other choices are countries, sexual orientations, foot sizes, eye color, e.g. Any answer other than human may come, but has to sit at the kiddie table…/s?
…the person who downvoted this does not look at other people as humans…
Yes allow politics to destroy your family
Yeah, when someone thinks that my entire life is wrong and/or that some humans deserve torture and punishment just for existing, that’s bad for interpersonal relationships.
The family destruction came first. You don’t get to that level of cynical populism with a healthy family life and outlook.
MAGA politics tend to have that effect, yes
But I only like it when politics destroys other people’s families!
Yes not talking with others that think differently is definitely the best way to deal with a fellow human. Absolutely ridiculous
I cut off all of my conservative Christian family years ago. Best decision I ever made.
The reality based community is much more pleasant to be around
I’m sure you are very satisfied being alone.
I agree, I’d much rather be at peace and by myself, as opposed to being in a toxic environment with others.
It’s wild to me people are afraid of toxic environments…grow up and be a freaking adult.
“think differently” is such a copout for the most vile traits humanity has to offer. Stop sanewashing them.
What are the most vile traits and do you have evidence of that happening? Not news articles, not opinion pieces, not blogs …facts. You can’t produce them.
Do you really think it’s that they “think differently” and not what they are thinking?
How will you know if you just assume? You know what they say about assuming.
I don’t, yet you assume I do. Curious.
Oh do I assume that? I absolutely do not assume that. I know your liberal mind is brainwashed there’s no assumption needed
Lol
