Yes, this is a real Am I The Asshole, not one where the answer is super obvious and the user is just looking to have their ego stroked.
My SO has BDD and genuinely thinks they look ugly naked. I think they’re 1000% incorrect and that they’re the sexiest human alive, and I would die happy if I could see them naked all the time.
I was diagnosed with a condition called Cone Rod Dystrophy which basically means I’ll lose color vision, then all vision. The timeline is anywhere from next week to 50 years from now.
I want to see them naked every chance I can get so I can cement it in my head before I go blind, but I feel gross for posing that as a reason to let me see them naked.
Like, in the 10 years we’ve been together I’ve never even asked them for a hand job if they didn’t feel up to sex because I didn’t want to seem like a callous asshole, so this would be a big ask from me.
To add in complications, they’re also on the spectrum. Not a criticism since I’m most likely on it too.
Hey.
I honestly don’t know whether this would be a good idea, or a bad one, but that’s up to you;
What if… what if… you talked about your gf about a professional photographer? I know it could sound way more daunting to someone with body dysmorphia, but also, sometimes photographers are really good at handling shy subjects and being extra good at making people’s comfortable. And to do it, she could take a bit of Dutch Courage or something idk an anti-anxiety pill, perhaps.
The point being that professional photos might make her see her body as more sexy as she usually looks at it in a mirror and not through professional photography.
Also it would mean you’d be able to make larger and larger prints as your vision degenerates. And even if she didn’t want to look at them, or feel like getting naked at some point, maybe she’d still subconsciously realise that you really do think she’s beautiful as you keep going back to browse the photos and have a quick wank lol.
Anyways, just a thought.