Until now, whenever I point out that any and all societies are fundamentals based on the capacity of violence, people got uncomfortable and/or denied it.

Sweeties, people got murdered so that you could have a democracy* because that gives the power to the people** as they have the most capacity of violence, so they need to be appeased.

Sidenote: the eu, the UN and so on are also existing to appease enough of us to reduce violence as it is a shared interest.