I was never beat but I hate being late. I don’t have an issue with it at all, I’m just… not late, and I don’t see why I should practice being disrespectful with other people’s time.
Anyway, then I had kids and they’re alway always slow which makes me late for everything, so I guess that’s my punishment. I try to be zen about it.
I’m just… not late, and I don’t see why I should practice being disrespectful with other people’s time.
It’s weird to me that their therapist just suggested disrespecting other people’s time like that. Like sure, give yourself grace but… just be late? Why should you change? It’s the tardy people that suck.
Babylove, can you re-read what you just wrote, please? “…afraid to your bones” ? That’s a panic attack. It doesn’t have to be like the movies where you fall down, hyperventilating. I come from an abusive home too, so I have a pretty good idea of who told you you have to be small, but you don’t have to minimize your experiences or silence your struggles! I’m just a stranger on the internet, so take my opinion w a grain of salt, or just throw it right away if you want. You deserve to be understood and respected.
Damn what an unfortunate coincidence, but also totally not your fault. And you know I’m sure everything turned out fine, right? Like the event didn’t get cancelled. The “bad thing” that happened was a bunch of people standing around chatting for 15 minutes.
I’m sure you’ve had to wait on someone for longer than 15 minutes. The world doesn’t end, right?
It’s a tough scenario. It’s not like good to be late, even though it’s OK to be late.
What about a dentist or doctor’s appointment? A little risky hehe, but they’re usually late to admit you; and since you’re a betting person, that might be an interesting one to try. ;)
If it’s just a habit you’re into it’s not like it’s something bad? I guess everyone’s anxieties are different but I always make sure to be early as well. It’s just being well prepared and a responsible adult? Mine was never instilled in me it was something I learned to do naturally. Especially when it comes to something like the airport. Better to be a bit early and have some time to read a book or mess around on my phone than to be late and miss a flight. Not being critical of you, I get everyone has different mental health journeys, I’m just saying if being late requires planning and stress maybe that’s not helping the problem either.
Be late to places where you yourself are not expected. If you’re late to poker or D&D or a concert that is not good, but a party with no schedule and a blanket invite to a bunch of people is totally fine to be late because people are expected to come and go.
Even still, being on time is a good thing even if we can agree that the anxiety maybe isn’t.
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I was never beat but I hate being late. I don’t have an issue with it at all, I’m just… not late, and I don’t see why I should practice being disrespectful with other people’s time.
Anyway, then I had kids and they’re alway always slow which makes me late for everything, so I guess that’s my punishment. I try to be zen about it.
It’s weird to me that their therapist just suggested disrespecting other people’s time like that. Like sure, give yourself grace but… just be late? Why should you change? It’s the tardy people that suck.
Maybe if OP becomes disproportionally distraught it could be a good exercise, but then I guess my family will say I am disproportionally distraught 😁
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Babylove, can you re-read what you just wrote, please? “…afraid to your bones” ? That’s a panic attack. It doesn’t have to be like the movies where you fall down, hyperventilating. I come from an abusive home too, so I have a pretty good idea of who told you you have to be small, but you don’t have to minimize your experiences or silence your struggles! I’m just a stranger on the internet, so take my opinion w a grain of salt, or just throw it right away if you want. You deserve to be understood and respected.
Hope you have a calm and peaceful day xoxo
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If everyone’s late, then showing up late isn’t really showing up late, y’know?
I’m often a little late to larger hangs or house parties, just because I don’t want to be standing around waiting for the cool late people to show up.
I think being on time is a way of respecting another ones time.
And if someone lets me wait, they aren’t respecting my time and I… I’m not happy
Damn what an unfortunate coincidence, but also totally not your fault. And you know I’m sure everything turned out fine, right? Like the event didn’t get cancelled. The “bad thing” that happened was a bunch of people standing around chatting for 15 minutes.
I’m sure you’ve had to wait on someone for longer than 15 minutes. The world doesn’t end, right?
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It’s a tough scenario. It’s not like good to be late, even though it’s OK to be late.
What about a dentist or doctor’s appointment? A little risky hehe, but they’re usually late to admit you; and since you’re a betting person, that might be an interesting one to try. ;)
If it’s just a habit you’re into it’s not like it’s something bad? I guess everyone’s anxieties are different but I always make sure to be early as well. It’s just being well prepared and a responsible adult? Mine was never instilled in me it was something I learned to do naturally. Especially when it comes to something like the airport. Better to be a bit early and have some time to read a book or mess around on my phone than to be late and miss a flight. Not being critical of you, I get everyone has different mental health journeys, I’m just saying if being late requires planning and stress maybe that’s not helping the problem either.
Be late to places where you yourself are not expected. If you’re late to poker or D&D or a concert that is not good, but a party with no schedule and a blanket invite to a bunch of people is totally fine to be late because people are expected to come and go.
Even still, being on time is a good thing even if we can agree that the anxiety maybe isn’t.
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