• Fondots@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      20
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      4 days ago

      My sister and I joke that we’re hermit crabs moving into each other’s shells

      My grandmother died, my sister moved into her house

      My mother in law moved in with her elderly mother (my wife’s mom and grandmom) to take care of her so my wife and I got her house

      And for our next shells, my sister is eyeing my uncle’s house (he has no kids of his own, so it’s split between her my cousin, and myself in his will)

      And I’m eyeing my parents house.

      My sister and I have an agreement that we won’t make any move to try to claim the house the other wants.

      And as for my cousin’s share of my uncle’s house, he can either have my sister’s current house (which we think would be ideal, it would get all 3 of us into the same town and he has some special needs so it would be nice for us to be close by if he needs anything) or she’ll buy him out of it with the money from selling her current house.

      This of course hinges on my parents and uncle staying reasonably healthy and financially secure, if they end up as vegetables with a nursing home draining all of their assets or decide to blow all of their wealth in Vegas or something the whole plan could kind of fall apart. Looking at family history and their current health, age etc. though we think things are pretty much on-track.

      • 🇨🇦 tunetardis@piefed.ca
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        9
        ·
        4 days ago

        This of course hinges on my parents and uncle staying reasonably healthy and financially secure, if they end up as vegetables with a nursing home draining all of their assets or decide to blow all of their wealth in Vegas or something the whole plan could kind of fall apart.

        I’m a Gen X with Gen Z kids and this is literally the kind of thing that keeps me up at night. I don’t want to go through a long and costly retirement. My mom got dementia. My dad lived to be a hundred. Either of those outcomes fills me with dread that there is no way I have saved anywhere near enough to make that work. At least I don’t see myself doing the Vegas thing, unless it’s a side-effect of the dementia?

  • etherphon@midwest.social
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    19
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    4 days ago

    With this many people on the planet, the idea that every single person must have their own personal domicile otherwise they are a grand failure needs a revisit perhaps.

    • Frigidlollipop@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      10
      ·
      3 days ago

      I dont think there’s anything wrong with not wanting to rent, though. My dream is to have enough land to have livestock and to be able to plant what I want when I want in my garden. I believe humans are happier living together in groups/with family, but it’s also important to have a little thing to call your own even if its shared, I think.

      • etherphon@midwest.social
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        3 days ago

        I mean it is doable, my brother and his wife are living out in the middle of nowhere in Montana doing just that and they are definitely not what I would call well off, it is hard work though and there is little convenience around but you get used to it. I wouldn’t mind owning a farm myself, so I could throw barn raves whenever I wanted.

      • etherphon@midwest.social
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        6
        ·
        3 days ago

        It’s great to push a narrative of bold independence because you can sell a ton more shit if everyone has their own house.

  • MyOpinion@lemmy.today
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    25
    arrow-down
    9
    ·
    4 days ago

    What a wonderful world we have created for future generations. Having children is child abuse.