• x00z@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    You can ask, but not tell.

    If somebody calls you how you want to be called then that’s a form of respect. But forcing other people to respect you just gets you disrespected.

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      8 days ago

      Nah man, anyone who refuses to respect me deserves me spitting in their face. If someone asks that you use pronouns of a certain kind for them, generally you should make an effort to do so, and generally not doing so is a shitty thing to do. If I introduce myself as “John” and someone insists on calling me “James”, I am entirely in the right to insist on “John”, and to become aggravated if they refuse. Likewise with pronouns.

      Signed, Cis guy with he/him pronouns

      Ain’t hard to show a little respect when someone asks it of you; and if you refuse, they are in the right to demand it as a precondition for respectful interaction.

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        8 days ago

        What I mean is that if somebody calls you James, you should walk away instead of crying and being mad about it like a narcissist that doesn’t get what they want. It’s the latter which many people are exhibiting nowadays.