• BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.worldOPM
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    4 days ago

    Isn’t it amazing how they weaponize money and everything? It’s honestly terrifying how meticulously manipulative they are.

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      4 days ago

      Money, children (even before birth), everything.

      When she was pregnant, I had to talk her off suicide multiple times after minor fights. Some of those times it was followed up with “but will you buy me X like I wanted”?

      We owned over 50 strollers in less than 2 years. Many of them bought brand new, all sold with a loss. None were ever good enough. And then she fancied the same model she’d already bought and sold 5 times. Last time she got one of those in particular, I told her it would end our marriage. She laughed it off. We did not buy another stroller after that one and got divorced 2 months later or so. That one stroller was my final line in the sand, after hundreds of other reasons to break up. Sometimes you need a specific “if you do this after I’ve begged you not to, we’re done” because it helps you realise how little respect they have for you.

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        4 days ago

        50 strollers is “you deeply need serious medical attention” territory. Sorry you had to go through that.

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          3 days ago

          Yes, well, unfortunately medical attention is not given to those who don’t seek it.

          She is seeing a psychologist about her depression so she can claim she’s a healthy person now, but it’s not like they’re doing anything for the narcissism or the constant need to buy expensive things instead of food. She won’t mention any of the things that show her in a bad light.

          So now it’s up to me to prove in court that she is who I say she is.