“and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.”
Thanks for being among them. This is why I don’t use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.
There’s a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share “safe” spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they’re asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.
AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.
Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand “I’m asexual” means “No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever.”
I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.
It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying “I’m totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain’t gay then you’re just homophobic”.
Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying “Guys like girls too! Don’t forget about us!”
Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?
You do have separate labels. You’re sex repulsed and they’re sex positive. If you don’t want to talk to them, all you have to do is be specific. Make yourself a sex repulsed support group.
If I need a support group to feel comfortable and safe under “my” own label, there’s something wrong.
It’s been better on my mental health to just stay far away from communities that want to simultaneously say I belong and yet also call me an acephobic bigot for the sin of not wanting sex-yes shoved down my throat in what I hoped was a community of fellow sex-no’s.
No thanks. Don’t need that. I lucked out and landed both romance-no AND sex-no, so I have the easier option of just dodging that entire scene.
And that’s why I instead offer my condolences to the romance-yes, sex-no people out there who now have to seek partners in very sex-yes filled spaces when they were JUST starting to get some sex-no spaces.
“and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.”
Thanks for being among them. This is why I don’t use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.
There’s a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share “safe” spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they’re asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.
AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.
Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand “I’m asexual” means “No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever.”
So you want to exclude sex positive aces from the community because sharing the label makes you feel yucky?
I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.
It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying “I’m totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain’t gay then you’re just homophobic”.
Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying “Guys like girls too! Don’t forget about us!”
Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?
You do have separate labels. You’re sex repulsed and they’re sex positive. If you don’t want to talk to them, all you have to do is be specific. Make yourself a sex repulsed support group.
If I need a support group to feel comfortable and safe under “my” own label, there’s something wrong.
It’s been better on my mental health to just stay far away from communities that want to simultaneously say I belong and yet also call me an acephobic bigot for the sin of not wanting sex-yes shoved down my throat in what I hoped was a community of fellow sex-no’s.
No thanks. Don’t need that. I lucked out and landed both romance-no AND sex-no, so I have the easier option of just dodging that entire scene.
And that’s why I instead offer my condolences to the romance-yes, sex-no people out there who now have to seek partners in very sex-yes filled spaces when they were JUST starting to get some sex-no spaces.