• orioler25@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Okay, ngl most of these comments are just funny stupid man shit, but now you’re calling me a bigot for literally pointing out indisputable facts about a patriarchal society.

    Chuds are not your friend, they will not reward you for siding with them.

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      2 days ago

      Goddamn, imagine if I were to go around describing feminism as “stupid woman shit” (I wouldn’t, because actually I agree with a lot of feminist philosophy such as bell hooks and Carol Gilligan, whom you’ve apparently never heard of).

      But let’s just say I did. Imagine your reaction. And then go look in a fucking mirror. Newsflash: you are a bigot.

      And then to call your generalizations and assumptions “indisputable facts” is a new level of arrogance. Do you even hear yourself?

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      There is also zero reward for siding with people who think that if you’re not a woman, you’re a man.

      Turns out, what you’ve got in your pants has nothing to do with who you are as a human, and I’ve got penis-having friends who don’t judge me for not being femme.

      • orioler25@lemmy.world
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        Interesting, could you explain how making fun of cis men equates to transphobia and TERFs?

        I see comments like these and I fear for queer youth who do not understand how their oppression functions structurally. Making fun of cis men, who are indeed in charge of every institution this meme is referencing, is not gender essentialism.

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          Because it’s the same reductive binary bullshit they do. If you’re in this category, you’re bad, lets just ignore the rest of it because it doesn’t fit the black and white thinking.

          I also don’t fit the black and white thinking, ergo you won’t like me either.

          • orioler25@lemmy.world
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            Jesus Christ you’ve been so miseducated. You think TERFs care about explaining what gender essentialism is?

            Purposeful misunderstanding from, “as one of the queers myself,” is also a common engagement tactic by chuds to gain info on disarmed queer people online as a form of intimidation. If you really are a queer person without education on what that even means systemically, feel free to DM and I can provide a reading list.

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              And there it is. I’m afab and don’t want to conform to your rhetoric, and in your eyes that makes me as good as a cis man.

              You’re a TERF.

              Edit: And to talk theory?

              Patriarchy is the problem, not men. Patriarchy in the western world is a system established by Christians, where inheritance (aka, power) flows through the oldest male child. Today this expression has softened, but it is still men that receive preferential treatment by society. The Patriarchy is regulated by social gatekeeping what it means to be a man, in order to receive maximum benefit from social norms. This is what we mean when we say that The Patriarchy hurts men too.

              By continuing to insist that one’s gender is what makes them the problem, you are upholding The Patriarchy, and you need to stop.

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                Well said. Funny how they said you need education because you are far more emotionally intelligent than they are (assuming they aren’t just a troll, which they probably are, but even then).

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          How do you justify in your mind that it’s okay to make fun of a cis man who has never been anywhere near wealth or power in his entire life, just because most people near those levers happen to have the same genitalia as them?

          That sounds a lot like gender essentialism, no matter how you say that it isn’t.