Not a dick move making someone experience the other option if they can’t appreciate the service you were willing to provide for them out of the kindness of your heart and presumably asking nothing, or very little, in return.
I recently had someone mention that I’m not updating my self-hosted stuff frequently enough (by their entirely arbitrary personal metric), and had the pleasure of writing out some… not overly nice messages about how I’m being selfless and generous sharing my very time consuming hobby with them and asking absolutely nothing in return, and if they want more they can pay for it from someone else or learn to do it themselves. If you make my hobby feel like work, I’m not going to treat it like a job, I’m just going to stop sharing it with you.
Not a dick move making someone experience the other option if they can’t appreciate the service you were willing to provide for them out of the kindness of your heart and presumably asking nothing, or very little, in return.
I recently had someone mention that I’m not updating my self-hosted stuff frequently enough (by their entirely arbitrary personal metric), and had the pleasure of writing out some… not overly nice messages about how I’m being selfless and generous sharing my very time consuming hobby with them and asking absolutely nothing in return, and if they want more they can pay for it from someone else or learn to do it themselves. If you make my hobby feel like work, I’m not going to treat it like a job, I’m just going to stop sharing it with you.