I have a decently strong in-person social anxiety that I bash my way through on a regular basis, it’s exhausting, but I need to make the connections sometimes for my kids.
I can only offer you anecdotal evidence, but it’s rarely worth it. The vast majority seem to have some major dysfunction. Racist, sexist, abusive, anti-science, anti-climate, conspiracy theorist, narcissist, It’s like we can’t survive as a species without ticking at least a few truly unsavory checkboxes. I get it, we’re all different, and there are a bunch of disappointing checkboxes that I dgaf about and overlook.
You can find tons of people with whom you can hold a 5-minute enjoyable conversation. Just don’t go too deep.
We seem, as a species, to do best when we have a common thing to complain about. It bridges gaps and usually gets the least rejection. A tiny pop of sarcasm about something that is going wrong in a shared experience will often net you a quick, low energy conversation.
I have a decently strong in-person social anxiety that I bash my way through on a regular basis, it’s exhausting, but I need to make the connections sometimes for my kids.
I can only offer you anecdotal evidence, but it’s rarely worth it. The vast majority seem to have some major dysfunction. Racist, sexist, abusive, anti-science, anti-climate, conspiracy theorist, narcissist, It’s like we can’t survive as a species without ticking at least a few truly unsavory checkboxes. I get it, we’re all different, and there are a bunch of disappointing checkboxes that I dgaf about and overlook.
You can find tons of people with whom you can hold a 5-minute enjoyable conversation. Just don’t go too deep.
We seem, as a species, to do best when we have a common thing to complain about. It bridges gaps and usually gets the least rejection. A tiny pop of sarcasm about something that is going wrong in a shared experience will often net you a quick, low energy conversation.
We are all a walking version of our (last) mistake, error, fight, trauma, loss, fear, etc.
We all bear them, and for some they are all consuming. But they need not be.