• applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    6 days ago

    lately its been lack of community for me. i want to just… be around the same people all the time, share our lives, invite each other to stuff, miss each other when we’re not around, see each other regularly as a matter of course. i want to be included in community activities by default and someone to bother me when i dont show up. just like… fucking belong somewhere without being expected to pay for the privilege somehow.

    • grammaticerror@lemmy.world
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      6 days ago

      As a child refugee who has moved around a bunch, I completely agree. I was never inducted into community, never shown how to establish this vital component of a pleasurable life. And some part of me understands that community doesn’t just appear, you have to work at it to find the people you want to be around, but how does that happen? Not in the logistical sense, that I understand how to approach, but in the relational sense. How does one begin to belong having never felt belonging in the first place?

  • catbum@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    I have that feeling now. There’s an uneasiness to it. Movement feels familiar. In stillness I feel distant.

    I am desperate for respite from my inconsolable emotion-children, but there is no safe place to put them down.

  • CobblerScholar@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    Me too and like I don’t think its boredom necessarily because no matter what I managed to distract myself with its back immediately after I stop