A Denver Public Schools parent has sued the district over its policy allowing teachers to display Progress Pride flags in their classrooms, saying LGBTQ+ flags âdiscriminateâ against his straight, cisgender, white children.
Nathan Feldman, whose children attend Slavens School in southeast Denverâs Wellshire neighborhood, on Nov. 10 filed the federal suit in the U.S. District of Colorado that states DPSâ policy supporting LGBTQ+ students is ânot inclusive of all studentsâ or of his children, who are âheterosexual, Caucasian, and/or binary/âcisgender.'â The lawsuit comes after his unsuccessful attempts to have what he described as a âstraight prideâ flag displayed in his childrenâs classrooms.
The lawsuit alleges Feldman and his children have âsuffered irreparable harm directlyâ because of the districtâs policy, and it seeks an injunction stopping the district from enforcing the policy that prohibits the straight flag display and a declaratory judgment on the unconstitutionality of the policy.
The lawsuit also seeks $3 million in punitive damages from Slavens School Principal Kurt Siebold, DPS Director of Operations Christina Sylvester, and DPS family constituency specialist Katherine Diaz, who are named individually in the lawsuit as well as the district, the DPS school board, Superintendent Alex Marrero and two of Feldmanâs childrenâs teachers.
According to the lawsuit, Feldman asked the district to display a flag he described in an email as a âstraight prideâ flag, a black and white striped flag with a linked male and female gender sign on it, in front of his childrenâs classrooms to include them, but the district did not respond to his request.
âEach day at school, (Feldmanâs children) are exposed dozens, if not hundreds, of âProgress Pride Flagsâ that DPS officials have strung throughout the Slavens School classrooms and halls as a means of expressing and promoting DPSâ favored viewpoint on the topic,â the lawsuit states. âDue to the fact that (Feldman and his childrenâs) views differ, (Feldman and his children) simply requested to have their views expressed, as well. But DPS has refused, and continues to refuse, to permit (Feldman and his childrenâs) speech or expression to even exist in its schools.â
Feldman first raised his concerns about pride flags to the district Oct. 6, 2022, according to the lawsuit, after he attended a school event and saw Progress Pride Flags displayed in front of classrooms.
He asked his childrenâs teachers about the flag displays because âPride Flags are not inclusive of all Slavens School students and only represent one viewpoint on the topic of sex,â and if he could have the straight pride flag displayed as well.
Neither teacher responded, so he sent a follow-up email that Siebold answered, explaining district policy that supports teachersâ right to display a rainbow flag or any other sign of support for LGBTQ+ students.
The lawsuit alleges Sieboldâs response and DPS policy âconfirmsâ the district âdoes not allow students or staff to speak or express support for students or staff who are not members of the LGBTQIA+ community.â
Siebold later allegedly sent an email that stated, in part, âDPS doesnât allow for other flags,â according to the lawsuit.
Feldman went back and forth with DPS officials and school administrators and faculty, saying the use of the pride flags and alleged non-allowance for other flags violates the 1st and 14th Amendments to the U.S. Constitution.
He also sent an email to Sylvester, stating heâd like to âfollow [Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion policies] to display a straight pride flag with 2 gender symbolsâ in front of his childrenâs classrooms.
He met with Siebold and Diaz in January, where Diaz allegedly said, ââsexual orientation, gender identity and race protections only apply to homosexuals, people of color, and trans people.â
Feldman claims, according to the lawsuit, straight, white, cisgender people should âbe members of protected classes or protected against discriminationâ because those are parts of sexual orientation, race and gender identity.
Feldman and his children are being represented by Michael Yoder and Chad LaVeglia, two Washington D.C.-based attorneys.
DPS Director of External Communications Scott Pribble said as of Monday the district had not been served the lawsuit, but even if they had could not comment on pending litigation.
Straight people already have representation. Plenty of it. Almost every love story in modern western society is straight. The law itself in many places only recognizes straight couples. This has only started to change in the last 10-20 years. The point of pride is to give a heavily marginalized, underrepresented group of people a shared voice and a way to find joy in a society that make it difficult to be that way. Trying to celebrate âstraight prideâ makes no sense since society doesnât make it difficult to be straight. We donât need pride because everything is built for us. And if you still want to join in, you can be an ally - it even has a flag if you want one.
But these are children youâre talking about. They have no concept of the history of racism, sexism, the turmoil of the past, etc.
All they see is all the LGBT kids being celebrated, while they arenât for some reason. I wonder as a child, what I would do if I saw all this love and pride for people that were gayâŠI might just want to announce myself gay as well, because I yearned to gain the acceptance and tolerance that those who claimed they were LGBT were getting as well. Even if I werenât, I would certainly feel pressured to, without representation of my own.
You have to understand the context of all of this, and you clearly donât. Youâve decided the stance youâre going to take, and have worked your way backwards to support it rather than thinking about it as a whole, and coming to a sane conclusion from there.
Itâs a school. If the students have no concept of the history of racism, sexism, homophobia, and transphobia then maybe the school should, you know, educate them?
Also I went to public school while the gay pride movement was getting mainstream traction, and I was straight and cis. The bullying they had to go through did not make me wish I was gay.
And not to mention, this article is about an adult arguing for this. Thereâs no excuse for them not understanding the âturmoil of the past.â
Do you understand what it was like being a Jew during the holocaust?
Even though you have been educated about itâŠdo you really? Education doesnât impart anything more than knowledge. Knowledge is not Understanding.
And yes, itâs an adult arguing for this, because nobody will listen to a child and children need Adult proxies to argue for things when they canât. Did your parents never take up arms for you as a child when you were wronged?
Itâs discrimination to display LGBT flags all over the schools and then balk when others want to be represented as well. But itâs clear that you support discrimination, so long as itâs âfor the right peopleâ. Youâre no different than a Republican.
My 15 year old daughter has told me multiple times in the past that in school now - if you donât claim youâre LGBT in some orientation, you get bullied for not being that. So much so that an increasing number of kids say they are just to be left alone about it. My niece of the same age has confirmed it with me as well, because initially I didnât believe my own daughter. It sounded way too outlandish to actually be true.
But that sounds like itâs okay with you, because straight people are âthe wrong peopleâ.
Donât assume what people think to match your prejudices. No one is saying that straight people are wrong.