It’s just easier. Like, the left can recruit a lot of these young men if they tried and came up up with strategies beside preaching again and again and telling them their problems aren’t real? But they are written off before the can even speak and the dialog regarding tjis issues is so limited thats hard to talk about And if you advocate for them suddenly you are an incel, so what’s the point of even trying? For fucks sake one of the most up voted comments on here is someone with the name misandry so how can it be argued that you have no real place in among the left? So I just keep my head down and agre with what is said about us because it’s easier then to keep banging my head against the wall.
And my interests often limit my ability to find good people to be friends with. Though I will admit igot some good friends among them who don’t suck.
I don’t understand how you make this a political thing. Do you by chance live in the US? There is a lot of polarisation there.
As a woman myself, I think some people understand feminism differently than others. I don’t agree with women that just spit hate on men simply because they are men. Feminism is about empowering women to be whatever they like and be equal to men in society, relationships, family, work. I had my fair share of discrimination in my life based on my gender, and I constantly fight against it, but that does not make me just hate men by default. I know a lot of men that are on the same page with me about how we should be as a society. And a society where we are all getting along is so much better than a polarised one.
I am lucky to have found a husband that is secure with his masculinity(whatever that means to him), that he does not feel threatened about me having, for example, hobbies like woodworking, or having some muscles on my body. That does not mean I don’t find him masculine, because I do.
We are all shades of masculinity and femininity, and blocking one of these sides from us is just stupid. We are what we are and we can get along just fine with each other with a bit of effort. We don’t have to hate on the ones that are not like us.
And my interests often limit my ability to find good people to be friends with. Though I will admit igot some good friends among them who don’t suck.
To this I say, try new hobbies and activities. Volunteer somewhere, that will make you find nice people. You need to find friends that are awesome for you, not just that don’t suck. Some great friendships can be very healing for the soul.
Yeah, I am American so everything is political and there is no middle ground. Either you are a fascist or not and that is it.
As for my hobby I am kind of underselling it. It’s hard to get into, but it’s the only thing I genuinely love after years of picking up and droppingl a lot of other interests over the years. plus i am at a point where i do make some money, not something i can live on by any means but ist something i am proud of. And like I said I did meet some genuinely good friends I probably would never have met otherwise.
I really don’t want to mention it because the community around it jn my area is small and while doubt anyone I know uses lemmy it wouldn’t be hard to figure out who in am if they looked into it and I have said some dark shit here that would fuck it all up for me. I know it’s unrealistic, but I like what I do well enough to not want to that risk.
It’s just easier. Like, the left can recruit a lot of these young men if they tried and came up up with strategies beside preaching again and again and telling them their problems aren’t real? But they are written off before the can even speak and the dialog regarding tjis issues is so limited thats hard to talk about And if you advocate for them suddenly you are an incel, so what’s the point of even trying? For fucks sake one of the most up voted comments on here is someone with the name misandry so how can it be argued that you have no real place in among the left? So I just keep my head down and agre with what is said about us because it’s easier then to keep banging my head against the wall.
And my interests often limit my ability to find good people to be friends with. Though I will admit igot some good friends among them who don’t suck.
I don’t understand how you make this a political thing. Do you by chance live in the US? There is a lot of polarisation there.
As a woman myself, I think some people understand feminism differently than others. I don’t agree with women that just spit hate on men simply because they are men. Feminism is about empowering women to be whatever they like and be equal to men in society, relationships, family, work. I had my fair share of discrimination in my life based on my gender, and I constantly fight against it, but that does not make me just hate men by default. I know a lot of men that are on the same page with me about how we should be as a society. And a society where we are all getting along is so much better than a polarised one.
I am lucky to have found a husband that is secure with his masculinity(whatever that means to him), that he does not feel threatened about me having, for example, hobbies like woodworking, or having some muscles on my body. That does not mean I don’t find him masculine, because I do.
We are all shades of masculinity and femininity, and blocking one of these sides from us is just stupid. We are what we are and we can get along just fine with each other with a bit of effort. We don’t have to hate on the ones that are not like us.
To this I say, try new hobbies and activities. Volunteer somewhere, that will make you find nice people. You need to find friends that are awesome for you, not just that don’t suck. Some great friendships can be very healing for the soul.
Yeah, I am American so everything is political and there is no middle ground. Either you are a fascist or not and that is it.
As for my hobby I am kind of underselling it. It’s hard to get into, but it’s the only thing I genuinely love after years of picking up and droppingl a lot of other interests over the years. plus i am at a point where i do make some money, not something i can live on by any means but ist something i am proud of. And like I said I did meet some genuinely good friends I probably would never have met otherwise.
I really don’t want to mention it because the community around it jn my area is small and while doubt anyone I know uses lemmy it wouldn’t be hard to figure out who in am if they looked into it and I have said some dark shit here that would fuck it all up for me. I know it’s unrealistic, but I like what I do well enough to not want to that risk.