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  • Here’s my advice as someone who basically could have written this post when I was your age (I’m now 30)

    You can absolutely find a partner who wants to be free from gender expectations and find a relationship like you describe (I did!), but it will be extremely hard to find if you don’t put yourself out there and get used to sorting through the majority who are satisfied with gender roles.

    The most important things imo are to 1. Keep putting yourself out there when you have the energy. 2. Take breaks if you have to, don’t let the experience make you jaded or let that frustration affect how you treat others because that’s an easy way to repel someone who would otherwise be a great match. 3. Keep being yourself, don’t be afraid to showcase the ways in which you are not traditionally masculine. I literally put a picture of myself in a maid outfit on tinder and I get quite a few compliments. You’ll only repel the people you don’t want and it’ll be like a beacon to attract those who view gender roles in the same way that you do.

    To your last point, I would guess a lot of guys probably live quietly unhappy. But plenty have found accepting partners and social circles who are open minded about identity and gender expression.


  • If you search for pfsense alias script, you’ll find some examples on updating aliases from a script, so you’ll only need to write the part that gets the hostnames. Since it sounds like the hostnames are unpredictable, it might be hard as the only way to get them on the fly is to listen for what hostnames are being resolved by clients on the LAN, probably by hooking into unbound or whatever. If you can share what the service is it would make it easier to determine if there’s a shortcut, like the example I gave where all the subdomains are always in the same CIDR and if one of the hostnames is predictable (or if the subdomains are always in the same CIDR as the main domain for example, then you can have the script just look up the main domain’s cidr). Another possibly easier alternative would be to find an API that lets you search the certificate transparency logs for the main domain which would reveal all subdomains that have SSL certificates. You could then just load all those subdomains into the alias and let pfsense look up the IPs.

    I would investigate whether the IPs of each subdomain follow a pattern of a particular CIDR or unique ASN because reacting to DNS lookups in realtime will probably mean some lag between first request and the routing being updated, compared to a solution that’s able to proactively route all relevant CIDRs or all CIDRs assigned to an ASN.


  • I think the way people do it is by making a script that gets the hostnames and updates the alias, then just schedule it in pfsense. I’ve also seen ASN based routing using a script, but that’ll only work on large services that use their own AS. If the service is large enough, they might predictably use IPs from the same CIDR, so if you spend some time collecting the relevant IPs, you might find that even when the hostnames are new and random, they always go to the same pool of IPs, that’s the lazy way I did selective routing to GitHub since it was always the same subnet.










  • So just going off of what I am somewhat familiar with - there’s a thing with certain wifi frequencies where at times that band needs to be used for military radar, satellite, and other radar. This seems to be sometimes a result of opening up frequencies that were already being used, with the stipulation that the new devices should stop using the frequency and give way to the original use.

    The way it works in wifi, is that any device using DFS channels has some form of radar detection, so it automatically changes wifi channels as soon as it detects it. It sounds like in order to make sure they comply as perfectly as possible, the radar detection leans towards being overly sensitive.

    (I double checked my facts with this technical write-up on dfs and radar if you want further reading: https://www.cwnp.com/dynamic-frequency-selection/ )

    So I would wager that it’s not necessary the power of the radar taking out the drones, but the drones detecting the presence of radar and choosing to shut down based on regulatory requirements.

    You could probably transmit a very weak radar signal and trigger / interfere with a lot of devices due to their sensitivity - but yeah that would be super illegal, and plenty of hobbyist ham radio operators with radio direction finding equipment would be eager to track you down. I used to live in an area close to radar so while my home wifi only had to switch channels once a month, making it very worth it to be the only person on those channels 99% of the time, my workplace had DFS events daily so they had to avoid those channels.