I know you didn’t mean it like this, but the result from this line of thinking is that we only try to put women on equal footing with men in tech when it’s convenient for men because times are good. Which in turn means we never put women on equal footing because the needs of men always come first.

Put differently women have to deal with being women in tech on top of times being desperate, men only have to deal with times being desperate. Things like this are why spaces like these are necessary in the first place, and if you break them down at the first discomfort you’re not a working class hero fighting the capital, you’re tearing down women and setting everyone back.

TTL on all content scales extremely poorly. You touch on this but I don’t think you appreciate just hope big of a SELECT * WHERE TTL ... this would be in just a few months/years. As an alternative, every instance sync should come with a list of newly deleted users. Retrying would not need to be reimplemented. If a user who wishes to be forgotten has had their home instance go dark, there will need to be a way for them to prove ownership over the original account (signup confirmation email perhaps) so a delete can be started from a foreign instance.