Nick

For servers autorestic just worked. It’s a wrapper for restic. I sent data to backlaze B2 and StorJ. Now that I have a couple proxmox hosts in a colo, I have an off-site PBS running in ZFS.rent.

First VMs back up to local PBS , then nightly that’s synced to ZFS.rent. I have PVE set to do encrypted backups to PBS so it’s all encrypted.

Yeah unfortunately iOS is very stingy with battery. Thankfully there’s a few apps that use apples push and ejabberd supports it. I haven’t tested them in a while tho since I’m on android.

Mattermost is great and I’m pretty sure they have an iOS app. I don’t believe the messages are encrypted on MM, but if you’re running the infra it’s not too big of a deal IMHO.

I run ejabberd for myself and my family/friend and use conversations on android. Mattermost I would say is the most like discord. I run one of those as well and love it.