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This always come from a person if you ask them what they like or to hold the room they have nothing to say like, most of y’all only talking to people on your phones complain about how actually being a human being works. Lol like what did you do when you were 5? Hey I like your hat? Talks about hat, does stuff together, friends.
Why is it so different now? And what alternative do you have? You haven’t given anyone another way to respond you’re just once again giving a reason as to why you never have to learn to speak. And speaking for yourself will come very useful ya know, in everything. Your jobs, your relationships, like all of it is determined by your ability to listen and share. Which the person wouldn’t be listening to you if their story didn’t relate. Which it does. Cause they were listening. And they have a good story to tell which you seemed like you were going to listen to. How bout next time dont even look at them? Don’t tell them anything dont respond and just say you’re talking about you leave me alone.
See how far this whole awkward life gets you.
Sorry for trying to relate to you through a common experience, I’ll just nod and say “cool” when you’re done and the convo can die awkwardly.
i think there’s different severities of this personality flaw. like there’s the ones who let you finish, ask a question, then say it happened to them too and add new info. then there’s people who will interrupt you with a related (but totally different) story about themselves.
side-note: i just realized a difference between online and in-person speaking is that people can’t interrupt you. is there an equivalent to interruptions online? maybe only responding to part of a comment?
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you have to acknowledge the other person first, then you can jump into your story. otherwise it comes off as self-centered instead.
“Wow! That story you told sure was a thing that you should feel the way you feel about it, and assume that I empathize! Now in my story…”
Most people are shit storytellers, not my fault that I tried to revive their crappy-ass bullshit and then finally resorted to a hostile takeover because they couldn’t even make fighting a dragon sound interesting.
“One time, I saw a beaver.”
“That’s cool, what were you doing at the time? What was it doing?”
“Just walking. I dunno.”
……
“That reminds me of when I saw some beavers in the park nearby. They were chewing up sone logs by the water and making noises you would not expect, and the whole time we’re just there trying to quietly point them out to strangers who were also walking by and—“
“Oh my god, you only talk about yourself.”
because they couldn’t even make fighting a dragon sound interesting.
Dragon there, heads off, dragon dead.
Worst hero’s journey ever.
What do you mean that’s boring? That’s all there is to it innit
A lot of people i know tell the same story multiple times, and often times i remember it better than they do. I never know what to do and often i sit there and just listen to it awkwardly. My girlfriend told me before that she’s probably telling things more than once. I feel bad telling her that she told it before, and often when she tries to remember a name or location, i tell her and she goes: yeah that’s right. And then keeps telling the story.
I think the only particularly wrong thing to do is go “I’ve already heard this.” and try to kill the conversation. After that, filling stuff in but as questions has worked for me. You can even say “I think I’ve heard this one before but go on, I forget some stuff” and that might change how they tell it but not make them feel like you don’t want to hear something they wanted to tell you about.
This. I hear the same stories a lot, but I’m shit at remembering details. So that’s what I say. People are happy to recount old stories, and I’m happy to hear them over and over again. Hasn’t produced a problem so far.
Sorry I want to participate in a conversation instead of just smiling and nodding
I genuinely don’t understand when people do this. I hate it. Even if I have a similar story, I almost never throw it in, usually only if it contradicts a story from someone else I don’t like.
“I understand what you say and will now try to connect with you by sharing my similar experience”. It’s just how communication and most humans work
So if 10 people are sitting around a circle, and one says they had trouble parking their car, and everyone else tells some perfectly mundane, time-filling story about a universal experience, you would genuinely thing that’s time well spent? You’d spend an hour mostly listening to people talk about “yeah, once time I tried to parallel park, and it was a small spot, took me 3 tries.”?
And you’d rather NOT use the time to ask the person about their experience? Find out how it made them feel? Find out what they learned from the experience or how it differed from “yeah, parallel parking. That’s sometimes not easy.”? How that moment of time helped them grow as a person?
Sure, not applicable to every single story, but I also don’t listen to podcasts where it’s 4 dudes on a panel saying the same thing over and over and over and over. “Yes, that also happened to me, because it happens to everyone.” Why not seek to learn about someone?
Besides obvious bragging, some people just want to tell you everything they know, or some might feel strongly about some topic that they want everyone to know about even if others already know about it.
If you have difficulty understanding why somebody is saying something, you should try to pay attention to how they’re saying it. It might explain why, even if their words don’t.
i connect with others like that. the people i know (many of them autistic like me) also mostly do it. getting together means sharing a bunch of stories, which i like.
Yeah I genuinely love sharing a thing and learning someone else also has experiences with that thing.
If my story about playing a cool game I got recently reminded you of a fun time you had with a game like it I want to hear it. Like, that’s the whole point of me telling said story - I went out on a limb and was hoping for expansion!
I’m people and I’m sorry
I’m not sorry, my story is much better of course
When I do it it’s like “Wow that was so much fun hearing your experience of that thing! Let me tell you my exact same experience so you can get dopamine, too!” I’m actually pretty commited to the reality that I’m a relatively boring person, so I never think my story is better.
I think its most annoying when its the same person who always jumps in an ongoing conversion… and they somehow have a more “impressive” story to tell.
Brian Regan called them “Me Monsters” lol
I fucking hate that shit lol
I kept wondering “what is he snacking on”? Dude is great!
“That’s nothing, I…”
I’m in this picture and it makes me uncomfortable.
Yes, and?
