I’m down over 100k. To be fair a lot of that is from extra income I wouldn’t have earned if I wasn’t so fucked. But then I could’ve slept more than 3h a night if I didn’t have to do that.
I’m just starting my road to recovery, still in a constant battle. She’s trying to weaponize our child against me and I’m documenting everything with CPS but in our country only courts can tell her to relinquish custody back to me. CPS has no such power, but they do show up in court to make sure the child’s interests are protected.
Shit, that sounds awful. I’m glad we didn’t have any kids involved. Sorry you’re going through that.
Incredibly painful and had me borderline suicidal at the time because I had ZERO friends or support in the city we’d moved to for her job, I’d only lived there a few months.
Mostly doing a lot better these days, after a lot of therapy (I had other shit I was working on in therapy prior to the cheating, I was 6 months sober when she cheated on me. It almost broke me but I kept the streak, still not a drop of alcohol to this day), then I said fuck it and moved 1000 miles and restarted my life about a year ago.
I definitely still have trust issues though. The idea of dating again still makes me anxious enough that I’ve only been on one date since moving here.
Oh and somehow she’s already married? So fuck me even more lol
Kids make it harder but the other one already has a custody judgement in favor of the father so now it’s just mine to get back.
In fact, as painful as it is, I think you might’ve had it worse. The upside of moving back to my family home to stop paying rent is that now I see some old high school friends nearly every day. I just hop over when I’m feeling lonely, they are used to having guests over nearly every day. Sometimes I just go for a cigarette and leave, sometimes I stay for 7 hours and play couch co-op games.
I’m still on the fence about dating again. I drive a rusty old shitbox of a car and tell myself that it’ll repel future gold diggers. I had a nearly new Mercedes when I met my ex and I’m honestly somewhat blaming that car for attracting her. She’s proven time and time again that cars are the center of her universe.
At this point if I meet someone new, I’m going to have financial criteria before I’m going on a second date. I.e if she has a stable job, her own place with no roommates, and it seems like she’d be able to pay for her own meals if I told her I wanted to split the check.
I’m down over 100k. To be fair a lot of that is from extra income I wouldn’t have earned if I wasn’t so fucked. But then I could’ve slept more than 3h a night if I didn’t have to do that.
I’m just starting my road to recovery, still in a constant battle. She’s trying to weaponize our child against me and I’m documenting everything with CPS but in our country only courts can tell her to relinquish custody back to me. CPS has no such power, but they do show up in court to make sure the child’s interests are protected.
I hope you’re recovering too.
Shit, that sounds awful. I’m glad we didn’t have any kids involved. Sorry you’re going through that.
Incredibly painful and had me borderline suicidal at the time because I had ZERO friends or support in the city we’d moved to for her job, I’d only lived there a few months.
Mostly doing a lot better these days, after a lot of therapy (I had other shit I was working on in therapy prior to the cheating, I was 6 months sober when she cheated on me. It almost broke me but I kept the streak, still not a drop of alcohol to this day), then I said fuck it and moved 1000 miles and restarted my life about a year ago.
I definitely still have trust issues though. The idea of dating again still makes me anxious enough that I’ve only been on one date since moving here.
Oh and somehow she’s already married? So fuck me even more lol
Kids make it harder but the other one already has a custody judgement in favor of the father so now it’s just mine to get back.
In fact, as painful as it is, I think you might’ve had it worse. The upside of moving back to my family home to stop paying rent is that now I see some old high school friends nearly every day. I just hop over when I’m feeling lonely, they are used to having guests over nearly every day. Sometimes I just go for a cigarette and leave, sometimes I stay for 7 hours and play couch co-op games.
I’m still on the fence about dating again. I drive a rusty old shitbox of a car and tell myself that it’ll repel future gold diggers. I had a nearly new Mercedes when I met my ex and I’m honestly somewhat blaming that car for attracting her. She’s proven time and time again that cars are the center of her universe.
At this point if I meet someone new, I’m going to have financial criteria before I’m going on a second date. I.e if she has a stable job, her own place with no roommates, and it seems like she’d be able to pay for her own meals if I told her I wanted to split the check.