Many years ago, I was working together with a girl my age for about 3 months and I had decided pretty early on that I didn’t want to impress her, but that I would use the time to work on smalltalk and such. It was a factory job with lots of boring tasks, so there were lots of opportunities to entertain each other.
After 2½ months, I felt like I was doing better than I’ve ever done in my life. Then she hit me with the sentence: “I don’t think any girl would want to go out with you, because you don’t talk enough.”
So, basically worst case: That’s genuinely what she thought.
‘Best’ case: She was trying to hurt me, but well, she still knew which wound to poke into, so I guess, I wasn’t doing that great either way.
Also that’s weird. A lot of people - half of which are women - just love to talk, and basically you only have to occasionally remind them that you are paying attention.
Person: blah blah blah for ten minutes, pauses for 2 seconds
Me: “Oh really? That’s crazy. Did he ask you about it later?”
Person: blah blah blah
Honestly I love this because basically everybody has some unique and interesting things about them that you will learn if you just let them go…
Many years ago, I was working together with a girl my age for about 3 months and I had decided pretty early on that I didn’t want to impress her, but that I would use the time to work on smalltalk and such. It was a factory job with lots of boring tasks, so there were lots of opportunities to entertain each other.
After 2½ months, I felt like I was doing better than I’ve ever done in my life. Then she hit me with the sentence: “I don’t think any girl would want to go out with you, because you don’t talk enough.”
So, basically worst case: That’s genuinely what she thought.
‘Best’ case: She was trying to hurt me, but well, she still knew which wound to poke into, so I guess, I wasn’t doing that great either way.
Also that’s weird. A lot of people - half of which are women - just love to talk, and basically you only have to occasionally remind them that you are paying attention.
Person: blah blah blah for ten minutes, pauses for 2 seconds
Me: “Oh really? That’s crazy. Did he ask you about it later?”
Person: blah blah blah
Honestly I love this because basically everybody has some unique and interesting things about them that you will learn if you just let them go…
Some people aren’t nice or good people, oh well.
I doubt the details make for a particularly riveting story, but just to say it: I do think it is more complex than her just not being a good person.
She was hitting you.