My wife gets overwhelmed easily and shuts down (ADHD, likely AuADHD). Irrespective of ADHD (diagnosed) or any other undiagnosed conditions, I also have trauma that manifests as an insecure attachment style, I both try to explain harder and seek bids for connection/reassurance while she’s increasingly disassociating/internally panicking.
We love each other fiercely, but it took a lot of self-work and the (ever-ongoing) development of coping skills to figure out how to identify, let alone avoid, that trap. It’s a real challenge for us both.
No idea if the above is relatable, but I feel you on the over-explaining.
My wife gets overwhelmed easily and shuts down (ADHD, likely AuADHD). Irrespective of ADHD (diagnosed) or any other undiagnosed conditions, I also have trauma that manifests as an insecure attachment style, I both try to explain harder and seek bids for connection/reassurance while she’s increasingly disassociating/internally panicking.
We love each other fiercely, but it took a lot of self-work and the (ever-ongoing) development of coping skills to figure out how to identify, let alone avoid, that trap. It’s a real challenge for us both.
No idea if the above is relatable, but I feel you on the over-explaining.
Thank you for sharing. I can relate.
I’m fortunate that we’ve been together for nearly 20 years. It has taken work, but recognizing the pattern been a key insight.