• Typhoon@lemmy.ca
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    19 hours ago

    Misogynistic drivel.

    Woman: I’m suffering

    Man: I have it worse!

    Shut the fuck up and listen. If someone says they’re suffering you pay attention to their problems not make it a contest.

    • HasturInYellow@lemmy.world
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      4 hours ago

      It’s about depression you git. Does he have “all men” tattooed on his fucking forehead? It’s one dude. You sound extremely hypocritical

    • meekah@discuss.tchncs.de
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      7 hours ago

      So you’re just ignoring the part where the woman says that the man doesn’t understand? That’s the whole reason why he says how he feels. He’s not just saying that to undermine her struggle. He’s explaining why he thinks he understands her better than she thinks.

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        What the person you replied to is correct regardless of the genders involved. When someone brings up a problem to you, it’s a rude thing to immediately respond in ways that make it about you and your own pain. There’s a line between sharing your own experiences to establish understanding and empathy and making it the pain Olympics.

        Especially in this comic, the man couldn’t possibly understand how it feels to have the unfortunate symptoms that come from having periods, and he instantly equates putting up with his partner during their period as equivalent. It’s eye rolling on multiple levels.

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          He never made it about him. You made it about him. Where did he equate it to putting up with her? He didn’t, you did. He only explained how he could in fact understand her pain. You are saying he can never express his pain, he can only agree with her, pure bigotry

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      5 hours ago

      Misogynistic drivel.

      Seems like you dragged in a load of baggage/assumptions: I just see a dark, dramatic turn of characterization without generalities.

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      17 hours ago

      You do undermine your own point a bit by trivializing men’s suffering in the same breath as demanding nobody trivialize suffering.

      The comic is bullshit for sure but you did exactly the same thing it did.

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        He ignored her suffering and diminished it saying that for 5 days a month she feels what he deals with every day. He’s ignoring her point and one-upping her. That’s toxic behaviour that doesn’t help anything.

        That he is also suffering is a separate conversation that also needs to take place but that’s a different conversation. The first step is resolving conflict is by listening to the other person’s point of view, not dismissing it as less important.

        • _‌_反いじめ戦隊@ani.social
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          15 hours ago

          … it is that “toxic” mental health that the author is trying to emphasize needs to be met.

          both issues are valid. but shorthair‘s mental health problem is what’s being highlighted.

          It’s precisely shorthair’s dismissal that needs to be intervened.

          there maybe some underlying ASPD that needs to be resolved.

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      18 hours ago

      Also OP is a new account with only posts and no comments. Lots of red flags.

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        8 hours ago

        Longhair: explains problem they insist short-haired can’t understand

        Short hair: explains he does and why, revealing deep emotional damage underneath

        You: MY SOGGY KNEEEEES!

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        18 hours ago

        I had not considered that, so thanks for pointing that out. Upon checking the comic more closely, I don’t get any hint that it’s making fun of misogynists, but it’s certainly possible.

        If so, it’s shockingly ineptly done though

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      16 hours ago

      Conversely, empath the fuck up and don’t push your problems on someone who also has them. Both struggles, as minor as they could be, are valid.