• beetus@lemmy.world
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      10 days ago

      The person you replied to was saying that they’ve never experienced this supposed shame but have heard of its existence.

      I also have only heard of people complaining that this shame exists and have never actually seen a man be shamed for being hit by a woman

      Perhaps both of us are lucky to not have seen this toxic masculinity first hand

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        Perhaps both of us are lucky to not have seen this toxic masculinity first hand

        This is the answer. I have experienced it first hand thanks to an abusive ex-girlfriend. While we were together I tried to tell people what she was doing to me, but I was either mocked or simply not believed. The same thing happens to male survivors of sexual assault.

        Don’t ignore other people’s experiences just because you haven’t witnessed it firsthand.

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          10 days ago

          Did my reply suggest I was ignoring this reality? I’m sorry that happened to you :(

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            10 days ago

            It did come off as skeptical and a little dismissive, I’m glad to hear that’s not how you meant it.