I really don’t understand people who want that. It’s so infantilizing to have someone else do basic shit for you, especially if you need to wait for it. It crosses a line from basic politeness to learned helplessness and is often a motivation for weaponized incompetence, so I also don’t understand the people who do those things for a partner that demands it. It would be an instant loss of interest for me.
It’s often an enforcement of gender roles, but you also see issues the reverse way for helplessness and incompetence: old men who do not know how to cook or handle any household chores because their wives always did it for them.
I really don’t understand people who want that. It’s so infantilizing to have someone else do basic shit for you, especially if you need to wait for it. It crosses a line from basic politeness to learned helplessness and is often a motivation for weaponized incompetence, so I also don’t understand the people who do those things for a partner that demands it. It would be an instant loss of interest for me.
It’s often an enforcement of gender roles, but you also see issues the reverse way for helplessness and incompetence: old men who do not know how to cook or handle any household chores because their wives always did it for them.