I didn’t know a single person whose faith caused them to feel like the loss of a loved one is no big deal. They may say that in their mind, but it hurts all the same
But maybe 11 days is enough to be a bit more collected in general, but the context is off-putting. Even thinking about revenue and merch sales during something akin to your spouse’s funeral seems like a sociopath. I’ve heard people who had absolutely moved on and normal day to day get choked up at a one year memorial when they were faced with discussing a close friend. To be directly talking about a memorial for your husband less than two weeks after his death without missing a beat, and sincerely at complete ease, not merely trying to put up a brave front… That’s not the reaction of someone that actually cared.
I don’t have that faith any more, but I used to be devout and associated almost exclusively with religious people. When I work as a missionary, my life focused only on God and church work, the prospect of dying didn’t feel significant to me. It was unfortunate, like getting ill, but nothing dire. It actually made it difficult for me to sympathize when I was helping comfort people who had a loss in their family. It led me to thinking that most people don’t actually believe their loved ones are going to a better place or that they’re going to see them again. Their grief is closer to how I would react to irrevocable loss.
In short, I’ve learned that people grieve a lot differently than I do. I don’t think it proves people care about someone more just because they’re constantly bawling and inconsolable.
I didn’t know a single person whose faith caused them to feel like the loss of a loved one is no big deal. They may say that in their mind, but it hurts all the same
But maybe 11 days is enough to be a bit more collected in general, but the context is off-putting. Even thinking about revenue and merch sales during something akin to your spouse’s funeral seems like a sociopath. I’ve heard people who had absolutely moved on and normal day to day get choked up at a one year memorial when they were faced with discussing a close friend. To be directly talking about a memorial for your husband less than two weeks after his death without missing a beat, and sincerely at complete ease, not merely trying to put up a brave front… That’s not the reaction of someone that actually cared.
I don’t have that faith any more, but I used to be devout and associated almost exclusively with religious people. When I work as a missionary, my life focused only on God and church work, the prospect of dying didn’t feel significant to me. It was unfortunate, like getting ill, but nothing dire. It actually made it difficult for me to sympathize when I was helping comfort people who had a loss in their family. It led me to thinking that most people don’t actually believe their loved ones are going to a better place or that they’re going to see them again. Their grief is closer to how I would react to irrevocable loss.
In short, I’ve learned that people grieve a lot differently than I do. I don’t think it proves people care about someone more just because they’re constantly bawling and inconsolable.