• jj4211@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    No amount of Christianity faiths away grief. Whatever you may sincerely think in your mind, you will feel the weight of the loss

    Neither do folks necessarily expects a widow or widower to be wholly consumed by grief, and maybe even after 11 days be able to normally engage with normal life, though as far as my experience has been, such a traumatic death tends to impact people longer…

    However, it is difficult to imagine such a cheerful, at ease demeanor in the context of discussing the memorial, and celebrating how awesome the ‘merch’ did. But let’s go and give the benefit of the doubt and say that a person with almost a couple weeks under their belt can at least distract themselves by pretending this is just another event and distancing their mind from the reality that it has to do with the spouse’s death. Except then due to some context I don’t know she seems to be concerned about infighting, and says he’s dead now and get over it as a reason to stop whatever infighting she was concerned about.

    So she wasn’t acting like someone who found enough strength and comfort in her faith to carry on in a functional capacity in spite of the trauma. She wasn’t acting like someone who was distracting herself from the situation. She was a person at ease and excited about engagement and merchandising, with perhaps a bit of impatience for people that need to be told to get over it, he’s dead.