I’m of the opposite opinion. Maxing out spending time with mom and dad means less healthy social interactions and growth for your child. I want them to have a separation where they have a teacher, a class and friends, and not feel they can run to me or are distracted by me.
The children I’ve seen who were raised at home are miles behind our child in terms if development.
Bringing a child to work seems worse - they can’t play with toys or engage in what they want at all anymore. They’d be subjected fk whatever the mom and dad have to do. They also have no friends or structured learning.
The daycares we’ve used have been fantastic and care a lot about teaching our child in many ways they wouldn’t otherwise have.
Hm. I think you need a balance. And not about getting less mum and dad time, but that you do get play time with other children. Already we have schools struggling because children aren’t developed enough at home. Deeper than that is whether children grow up with a strong bond to their parents, or, in a deep and often inexpressible way, feel abandoned. I’d rather a child be less classroom-developed in early years than feel unloved.
Bringing a child to work seems worse - they can’t play with toys or engage in what they want at all anymore.
Luckily, toys are portable. A good child-friendly workplace would have space for toy-playing I think!
Thanks for sharing your perspective, though. I appreciate seeing different experiences of parents.
My old workplace (rip, got a acquired and the new company ran it to shit) was down the street from a daycare. It had discount plans for the daycare. During lunch/breaks, some of my co-workers would spend time with their kids.
I thought it was a good best of both worlds. Still have the separation, but still get to spend time with your kids.
Exactly this. Teachers can basically spot the kids who didn’t go to pre-school or day care before kindergarten and spend most of their days with one of their parents. A good daycare will basically help give your kids a head start in their development.
But how much, I wonder, are the kids really more developed - and how much are they more developed at classroom life. Also I wonder if there’s some other correlated factors involved - if the children who stayed home are also more commonly in unstable families, since only high-income families can afford kindergarten, and high-income families tend to have different sorts of issues, and and more (at least superficially) stability.
I’m of the opposite opinion. Maxing out spending time with mom and dad means less healthy social interactions and growth for your child. I want them to have a separation where they have a teacher, a class and friends, and not feel they can run to me or are distracted by me.
The children I’ve seen who were raised at home are miles behind our child in terms if development.
Bringing a child to work seems worse - they can’t play with toys or engage in what they want at all anymore. They’d be subjected fk whatever the mom and dad have to do. They also have no friends or structured learning.
The daycares we’ve used have been fantastic and care a lot about teaching our child in many ways they wouldn’t otherwise have.
Hm. I think you need a balance. And not about getting less mum and dad time, but that you do get play time with other children. Already we have schools struggling because children aren’t developed enough at home. Deeper than that is whether children grow up with a strong bond to their parents, or, in a deep and often inexpressible way, feel abandoned. I’d rather a child be less classroom-developed in early years than feel unloved.
Luckily, toys are portable. A good child-friendly workplace would have space for toy-playing I think!
Thanks for sharing your perspective, though. I appreciate seeing different experiences of parents.
My old workplace (rip, got a acquired and the new company ran it to shit) was down the street from a daycare. It had discount plans for the daycare. During lunch/breaks, some of my co-workers would spend time with their kids.
I thought it was a good best of both worlds. Still have the separation, but still get to spend time with your kids.
Exactly this. Teachers can basically spot the kids who didn’t go to pre-school or day care before kindergarten and spend most of their days with one of their parents. A good daycare will basically help give your kids a head start in their development.
But how much, I wonder, are the kids really more developed - and how much are they more developed at classroom life. Also I wonder if there’s some other correlated factors involved - if the children who stayed home are also more commonly in unstable families, since only high-income families can afford kindergarten, and high-income families tend to have different sorts of issues, and and more (at least superficially) stability.