Respect.

This is kind of an interesting idea to me. When I wake up there are often some reflexive corrections to some of my initial thoughts, I wonder if I could tack this on somehow.

I’m not sure if you’re describing a specific context for this. Do you have an example? Sorry, I’m not quite clear on what you mean.

Really appreciate the thoughtful response on this topic. I think it’s a pretty commonly-shared experience among most of us, if not necessarily one that is very often overcome, but I believe that you understand it to a high degree.

What harm do you suffer from deferring your judgments, or from an early morning trip to pick up sausages, or from listening to the fan’s stories of their beloved character? Inconvenience is a small price to pay to offer kindness. The discomfort is bearable, especially when you can occasionally show it to yourself.

Ah, yes. That is unfortunate.

British Telecom?

Yeah, you really can’t make someone see anything they don’t want to see. Super annoying.

Well, to be fair. that last one is an appropriate response you can expect… but yes agree being the person with no social influence teaches you that being correct is not so valuable in society, and that sucks a lot.

Thanks for your comment; I appreciate you connecting with me on this one.

uh yep, that’s the comment im referring to.

Indeed. The never-ending quest to find those that will understand you; that’s surely one I’ve struggled with a lot, especially in terms of reciprocity and why others never seem to be bothered to try even a bit.

You control your actions and your intentions.

How people respond isn’t really up to you at all and will trend much more negative when you’re autistic interacting with neurotypical. It’s not easy to come to the understanding of this but, once you do, it becomes very empowering and a source of resilience.

In a way, you have a very focused ability to sus out the others who are similar to you. Just accept that it disqualifies almost everyone else and don’t put your energy into connecting with NT more than minimally.

It’s managing management.

“It’s been on the back-burner while I deal with competing priorities. I’ll pick it up again as I wrap up something else, unless you need me to prioritize this instead.”

I’ve watched a few of their videos and definitely the content is validating, but I don’t find it terribly useful. They are trying to sell their package of ND self-help products… which is fine, I guess? As long as it isn’t a rip-off.

I got some work accommodations that allow me to do more of my work remotely. So from a practical sense, thats been good.

Otherwise, having confirmation has helped me work on my life from this lens. I think thats allowed some things to improve, but it really hasn’t solved anything.

Temba, his arms wide.

Nonononono… it’s to make you more easily controllable

I can manage it occasionally, in certain contexts. I used to be way better at it but a while back I had ye olde autistic burn out episode and then that put a stop to a lot of things.

I don’t spend much energy on masking these days; it’s so harmful in so many ways. Getting along with the normies isn’t really worth it.

“Nah, I’m just really, really introverted… Like more than anybody I’ve ever met, kind of turbo-charged introverted, but that’s all it is. That and I’m just completely defective as a person, so that’s why nobody will be my friend.”

-Me, 2016