For me, it’s the near-universal social rejection. To a large degree, I’ve learned how to live with it, accept it, not blame myself or others too much. It’s not always a bad thing, either, or not as bad as it might seem… there are positives.

But it is easily the thing that adversely affect my life the most. Every group rejects me, eventually, if not immediately. Every friend becomes unfriendly, many work relationships are strained. Finding a way to be okay when it seems like everyone would rather you just go away.

Today, it feels more difficult than usual but I know I will feel better soon. I wish I had some ND friendships to help me recharge. It’s funny, I left a comment on another post on how to best deal with this kind of thing but, honestly, my capacity to be resilient is not so great rn. Hopeful it will be better tomorrow.

  • breadsmasher@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 month ago

    You control your actions and your intentions. How people respond isn’t really up to you at all and will trend much more negative when you’re autistic interacting with neurotypical. It’s not easy to come to the understanding of this but, once you do, it becomes very empowering and a source of resilience. In a way, you have a very focused ability to sus out the others who are similar to you. Just accept that it disqualifies almost everyone else and don’t put your energy into connecting with NT more than minimally.

    • late_pessimistic@slrpnk.netEnglish
      2·
      1 month ago

      This is a mindset I have been leaning towards recently too. Earning NTs approval isn’t worth the effort. They will predominantly consider you weird and exclude, as for NT conformity is the most important value. But it doesn’t mean I am bad, or that they are bad. Just different and incompatible. So no need to waste your time with them.