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Cake day: August 15th, 2023

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  • I recently had a conversation like this with an autistic person, and their perspective was interesting.

    I have a lot of strange niche interests that other people seem to think I know a lot about. An autistic person and her autistic friends thought I might be autistic too, which I took as a compliment because I interpreted it as them saying they think I’m like them.

    I don’t think I’m autistic, but I’m not bothered by the possibility, so I suggested we both take an online autism test. As we took it, the differences were apparent before we even finished.

    I had no issues answering the questions and found them very easy. She struggled to know what they meant and what the “correct” answer was. I finished in about a third of the time that it took her. When the results came in, I barely scored on the autism possibility scale while she scored very high as likely autistic. Her mind was kind of blown because it reframed what she thought a neurotypical experience was like.

    After more discussions with her, I realized she had a bit of a prejudice against what she interpreted as neurotypical qualities, but in my opinion, those were just the qualities that make up someone who is either kind of a jerk or just callous. As we’ve known each other longer, she has been amazed at my ability to let arguments go, do gross tasks without a problem, not fixate on things that bother me, and a host of other abilities that she struggles with, even though she also notices that I am passionate about certain subjects and tuned in to how I act most of the time.

    The thing I think some people on the spectrum don’t realize is that it is possible for a neurotypical person to learn and display positive qualities that are associated with autism. The reason why autism is considered a disability, in my opinion, is that it is harder for an autistic person to learn and display neurotypical qualities (though not impossible).

    So, if I were a fern guy, I think it would be totally possible for me to write an eight volume series about them single-handedly. The trick is that I would have to want to, and it would not be something that I was fixated on, but rather something that I chose and endured to the end for.






  • Ignoring your insults towards me, I ask you this question:

    Was the fertilizer company responsible for the Oklahoma City bombing because their product was used in a way it wasn’t intended for? After the tragedy, improved monitoring systems were created to track people who were buying industrial amounts of fertilizer without a clear need for using it in agriculture, but before the bombing, they did not think it would be used in that way and there were no safeguards in place.

    In my opinion, that’s where we are with U-Haul. Their product has been used in a terrible way that it wasn’t designed for—what they do next will be the thing I judge them for.


  • I get why you’re outraged, but I don’t think your assumption that the other poster is shilling for u-haul is well founded. As far as I know (from the last time I rented a U-Haul years before this administration), they don’t ask you what you intend to use it for. It is a tool with an obvious purpose—moving your stuff from one location to another.

    They also make you sign paperwork saying that people will not ride in the back, so they had reasonable safety in mind within the intended purpose of the unit and the anticipated risk factors within that use case.

    It is a good point that they should probably change their policies to log the intended use now that they know their trucks have been used in this way, but it isn’t reasonable to think that they should have anticipated that their moving trucks would have been used by ICE before it happened.






  • But responding to malice in kind is not always the right option. It is usually only the correct choice when the malicious person has no potential to change. Responding to a badly behaved teen with poor treatment only exacerbates the problem. On the other hand, responding to an oligarch with firm resistance would be the right choice.

    The oligarch wants to be treated harshly because that is their core value by which they think the world operates, while the teen is often acting in a defensive posture to avoid harm to themselves and would respond to a more gentle hand.