• Flickerby@lemm.ee
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    2 days ago

    I 100% understand your wife. I’m not that bad, but it’s a consequence of being told you have to be perfect or you failed growing up, at least for me. If something doesn’t go right the first time I still get that mini freeze “error encountered on line 1 please reboot” that my parents unintentionally instilled in me.

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      it’s a consequence of being told you have to be perfect or you failed growing up

      This would explain so much of the political in-fighting we see here, where “the perfect” becomes the enemy of “the good.”

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        1 day ago

        Eh I think Republicans just weren’t huggedr enough as children. Only half a joke

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          23 hours ago

          Tbf, both sides have had a tendency to have some rapid people who control the public conversation, attacking anyone whose opinions vary even the slightest from theirs. I have had the displeasure of meeting a few of the leftwing ones on this platform and they tend to be entirely unself aware about how extreme and hostile they come off to others.

          It’s the reason I ended up filtering out as much political content as possible. I left corporate social media because I wanted to get away from mindless hateful lunatics, but honestly, this place is just as unbearable as the rest of social media if you let it hit you unfiltered.

          And I have also experienced being accused of being a fascist despite being very much center left. Some people are fucking insane on here. Just as insane as some of the crazy right-wingers I have had the displeasure of encountering.

          Ideological fanatics suck no matter what side they are on because nuance repulses them and everything is a paranoid search for an enemy to attack. I want nothing to do with people who behave like that.

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      2 days ago

      Abaolutely, it’s obvious where it came from.

      I have my own, different issues especially socially. It’s bad enough she has to deal with that, sometimes i wish it wasn’t an issue because she has so much potential past that unlike myself…so i hate watching it be like this.