• ameancow@lemmy.world
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      1 day ago

      I couldn’t possibly spend a moment with a woman who couldn’t talk with me about historical disasters.

      I held to my values and wanted good things for myself and that’s what I got.

      • Taleya@aussie.zone
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        1 day ago

        Ayup. Autistic abrasive af here, never made any attempt to change or hide who i am. Been happily married 20 years

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          8 hours ago

          Major congratulations. I despair seeing so many people who ostensibly want the same things and yet live in constant stress for living up to some imagined image of what’s “normal” or “proper” for a relationship.

          People tend to argue for why they’re lonely so impassionately that you start to realize that loneliness and hopelessness is what they actually want on some level because it’s more comfortable than the challenges of sharing your actual life with someone, and their brains are just inventing stories for why they can’t find a partner who they can be friends with and enjoy things together.

          We have entire industries of scammers on social media pushing videos that serve only to feed this insecurity and avoidance and it’s making everything so much worse. I’m very glad I’m not part of the modern dating world because I’ve known what I’ve wanted since the beginning.

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            2 hours ago

            I know so many people who are in unhappy relationships because they’re following a scrupt.

            I also know a great many who have wiped their arse with it.

            Best thing you can be is yourself, ya got no other fucking choice anyway