Toxic empathy can only harm the person who has it. In truth you have to be a little selfish. The trouble with anyone who thinks empathy is really toxic are the ones who are too selfish.
You gotta be “me first.” But you can also realize that other people deserve to be happy and healthy, and sometimes you can sacrifice for them.
I did the volunteer EMT thing for a number of years, but I think I was always selfish. I felt accomplished, I felt connected with my community, I thought I was doing good things. So it was all these good feelings that drove me to keep doing it, and a nice fringe benefit was that I helped people.
Toxic empathy can only harm the person who has it. In truth you have to be a little selfish. The trouble with anyone who thinks empathy is really toxic are the ones who are too selfish.
You gotta be “me first.” But you can also realize that other people deserve to be happy and healthy, and sometimes you can sacrifice for them.
I did the volunteer EMT thing for a number of years, but I think I was always selfish. I felt accomplished, I felt connected with my community, I thought I was doing good things. So it was all these good feelings that drove me to keep doing it, and a nice fringe benefit was that I helped people.