• DiabolicalBird@lemmy.ca
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    8 个月前

    I work at a pet store. I monitor anyone that looks between 12 and 18 closely. If I don’t, without fail they’re always the ones swatting at our animals for a laugh. Why, by Neptune’s briny piss, would I treat them with the respect that 9/10 times they don’t show to anyone else?

  • TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world
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    8 个月前

    Man… The amount of comments saying that kids are dumb at fifteen and I didn’t know what I was doing at fifteen are all falsely equating respect with success and knowledge. Kids literally don’t know what their doing because they are figuring it out. They’re not dumb, they have a lot to learn. And most want to.

    Kids need respect for being who they are. You give most kids real respect and watch them do everything they can to live up to it. They need real connection and mentors. When you give high support then you can set high expectations.

      • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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        8 个月前

        You talk like all the adults that made life hell when I was 15. If anyone has to “earn” respect, it’s adults who forgot what it’s like to live under someone else’s thumb.

      • TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world
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        8 个月前

        Respect is granted for just being human. That can be erode if they violate core social norms, but when respect is given trust is given back. They then give the effort that results in learning.

          • TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world
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            8 个月前

            Teenagers are in development of becoming an individual. They may have personalities, but they haven’t tempered them for society yet. That tempering process is through human connections. I’d argue the best outcomes come through respect, patient connections with adults who demonstrate composure and allow them to grow that composure.

            I don’t know what you’re suggesting other than with holding respect.

          • Emerald@lemmy.world
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            8 个月前

            I don’t respect cops to begin with. If I didn’t know they were a cop then I would respect them.

    • where_am_i@sh.itjust.works
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      8 个月前

      The difference is you knowing that you don’t know, and an average teenager feeling like they know it all, while they know about as much as nothing.

  • rImITywR@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    8 个月前

    I thought like this when I was 15.

    Then in my twenties looking back at how I acted when I was a teen I thought “I was really dumb as a kid, I wish I had more supervision from a responsible adult.”

    Now in my thirties looking back at how I acted when I was in my twenties I think “I was really dumb as a kid, I wish I had more supervision from a responsible adult.”

    • ryathal@sh.itjust.works
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      8 个月前

      Kids today deserve the option to delete everything about the from the Internet at some point in their 20s. No one needs video evidence of that phase.

      • corsicanguppy@lemmy.caEnglish
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        8 个月前

        My bro has a rule: no public photos of his kids, ever. Shared to family, privately, only.

        They’re just not old enough to sign away their privacy.

  • where_am_i@sh.itjust.works
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    8 个月前

    “I’m 20 and this is deep”.

    Become an actual adult and you will realize how ridiculously difficult it is to take some uneducated teenager’s radicalism with any grain of seriousness and respect. Even if you try to because you remember what it felt like not to be taken seriously, and you don’t want to be that adult…

    • flying_sheep@lemmy.ml
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      8 个月前

      I’m 35, and I’m perfectly able to engage with the thought process behind the opinion, no matter how radical. All they want is to be treated with respect.

      Contrast with “real adults” who e.g. continue to trash the planet because they can’t even think of slightly decreasing the amount by which they enrich themselves. Those I don’t respect. They are the real radicals.

      If a 15 year old says “so much good can happen when a few billionaires kick the bucket”, I’m right there with them.

        • Duamerthrax@lemmy.world
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          8 个月前

          I had Climate Change anxiety when I was 15. I’m an adult now and I have crippling Climate Change anxiety and can’t do anything without feeling guilty. I hate the adults that sabotage my education because they decided I had a learning disability. If anyone said problematic shit, it was my conservative history teacher.

          • meliaesc@lemmy.world
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            8 个月前

            I don’t think the average person on lemmy, with a diagnosed learning disability or other challenges (autism in my case), represent the average opinion of 15 year old children.

            • Duamerthrax@lemmy.world
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              8 个月前

              Judging by the state of the world, I don’t think the average adult has any right to have a feeling of smug superiority to teenagers. I don’t think there’s really that much difference between average teenagers and average adults.

    • portuga@lemmy.world
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      8 个月前

      I had a great time being 15. Back then I couldn’t even fathom being twenty, it felt like being old and I was never getting old (or so my 15yo self thought)