This is really a monumental societal change.

3rd spaces are nearly completely destroyed, and online seems to be the main option for ppl now.

  • Asafum@feddit.nl
    271·
    2 months ago

    10 years of online dating, 6 dates out of it. As a well below average guy I just gave up

      • Asafum@feddit.nl
        5·
        2 months ago

        Idk comparisons are a thing that can be done and I’m objectively worse than most people in most categories (looks, intelligence, earning potential, education, interests, etc…) so I consider myself “well below average” especially since choosing a person to potentially date does involve comparing them to your other “options.”

          • EddoWagt@feddit.nl
            3·
            2 months ago

            (Not OP)
            I do get both your standpoints, its all subjective of course, so you can’t really be below average in interests or something like that, but you can definitely be below average in terms of commonalities with other people.

            I don’t know OP so I don’t know if he’s telling the truth or is indeed just unhappy with himself. But if your hobby is watching VR MyLittlePony porn you’re going to have a tougher time than if your hobby is cooking.

            Same for weight, if you’re 200kg it’s going to be harder, especially on dating apps.

            Money and intelligence I’m not so sure about, that probably matters less than he might think

      • Asafum@feddit.nl
        7·
        2 months ago

        I’m below average in most ways not just as far as attraction goes, but yeah my photos are never that great because I’m not attractive at all. I have had candid ones and funny ones, but I never got much traction. I live in an overpopulated area so this buffet table is brimming with options. I’m just that odd pizza at the Chinese buffet where you wonder why it’s being served lol