Which is the case, because traditional penetrative sex (penis in vagina) does not stimulate the woman particularly much. They’re more stimulated by the clitoris, where oral sex works well.
Well, and because penetrative sex does stimulate men quite a bit, so they orgasm early on and then often don’t continue stimulating the woman.
Which is the case, because traditional penetrative sex (penis in vagina) does not stimulate the woman particularly much.
I think that’s a waaay to broad claim to hold true for all vagina-havers.
AFAIK, it’s an anatomical predisposition. Some get more stimulation from penetrative sex(I think because the clitoris “wings” are more snug with the vagina), others get less.
The second part of that turned out to be more true for me. Older guys have more stamina (have trouble getting off) and I found out this is not a ‘two kinds of women’ thing. I can and do get off from the more indirect stimulation, it just never happened with my ex because he was quick (he did always take care of me first, not complaining) but now I am older this changed.
And maybe a little bit of society conditions men to go out and get what they want but tends to condition women to wait for it, to not be direct with it, or that their needs are less important. There’s all sorts of things we can all do better.
I’m not sure I get this one. Anyone mind explaining?
Edit: I hadn’t considered it being from the perspective of a woman. 🤦 There go my inherent biases getting the better of me.
SSRI are a class of antidepressants that can hinder your ability to orgasm.
But since the person writing the comment is probably female and straight she’s used to not having an orgasm while having sex.
Ah! I hadn’t considered it being from the perspective of a woman. 🤦 There go my inherent biases getting the better of me.
I’m a straight woman and I didn’t get it either, thanks for asking.
I’m also a straight woman and didn’t know what an ssri was, so I didn’t get the joke either
Which is the case, because traditional penetrative sex (penis in vagina) does not stimulate the woman particularly much. They’re more stimulated by the clitoris, where oral sex works well.
Well, and because penetrative sex does stimulate men quite a bit, so they orgasm early on and then often don’t continue stimulating the woman.
I think that’s a waaay to broad claim to hold true for all vagina-havers.
AFAIK, it’s an anatomical predisposition. Some get more stimulation from penetrative sex(I think because the clitoris “wings” are more snug with the vagina), others get less.
The position used for sex can also change this wildly, so if you have problems getting to orgasm, try changing styles.
Well, sure, I wasn’t trying to claim that for all vagina-havers, just enough of a majority that this stereotype that OP alluded to exists.
But yeah, it is what I’ve heard. I haven’t conducted a representative survey…
The second part of that turned out to be more true for me. Older guys have more stamina (have trouble getting off) and I found out this is not a ‘two kinds of women’ thing. I can and do get off from the more indirect stimulation, it just never happened with my ex because he was quick (he did always take care of me first, not complaining) but now I am older this changed.
Straight women often have unfulfilling sex lives, because their male partners are often unable or unwilling to help them achieve orgasms.
And maybe a little bit of society conditions men to go out and get what they want but tends to condition women to wait for it, to not be direct with it, or that their needs are less important. There’s all sorts of things we can all do better.
men can’t give women orgasms (if I’m interpreting OP correctly)