I always wanted to help my mom with the cooking when we were growing up, but she was such a control freak that she would hardly even allow anyone else into the kitchen. I’m sure plenty of other mothers are like that, too.
But maybe the reason she didn’t want you in the kitchen was because she didn’t want you (or anyone) to watch her struggling. And the reason she’s so critical is that she spent decades criticizing herself in there.
This was my wife. She didn’t know how to cook, run a washing machine, run a dishwasher, any normal household task. Absolutely nothing because her mom wouldn’t let her in fear she would mess something up.
I had to teach a 26 year old how to do everything to be self-sufficient and simply function day to day.
I always wanted to help my mom with the cooking when we were growing up, but she was such a control freak that she would hardly even allow anyone else into the kitchen. I’m sure plenty of other mothers are like that, too.
My wife’s mother was like that. Then she was confused as to why her daughter couldn’t cook (and so had to teach herself after she moved out).
Brother?
Even more frustrating, because when she turned 70, she admitted that she never liked cooking anyway, but will still tell us we’re doing it wrong.
Frustrating indeed.
But maybe the reason she didn’t want you in the kitchen was because she didn’t want you (or anyone) to watch her struggling. And the reason she’s so critical is that she spent decades criticizing herself in there.
Or maybe not. I don’t know your mother.
I do, and you’re spot on.
This was my wife. She didn’t know how to cook, run a washing machine, run a dishwasher, any normal household task. Absolutely nothing because her mom wouldn’t let her in fear she would mess something up.
I had to teach a 26 year old how to do everything to be self-sufficient and simply function day to day.