Exactly. That and the “they came for us” poem is too Nazi/Germany coded for a lot of folks, and they fail to see how it applies.
I’ll go as far as to say that 40% of everyone has never been bullied, or did/does try to avoid it by conforming.
This was a lesson I learned at age 9. You get bullied for whatever reason, so you try and change your behavior on the basis of the bullying. Hair, clothes, accent, likes, dislikes, whatever. The following week, the reason you get bullied changes or you outright get bullied for changing. Why? It’s about power, exercising that power, and abusing others; the bully has a bottomless pit somewhere in their psychology and abuse makes them feel better about it. It was never about the stated reason. You can never make this stop by accommodation, and by all accounts, can only make things worse.
Funny thing about that. Happens to all the in-groups at some point, at all levels.
Ask Caesar if he was in the in-group.
Exactly. That and the “they came for us” poem is too Nazi/Germany coded for a lot of folks, and they fail to see how it applies.
I’ll go as far as to say that 40% of everyone has never been bullied, or did/does try to avoid it by conforming.
This was a lesson I learned at age 9. You get bullied for whatever reason, so you try and change your behavior on the basis of the bullying. Hair, clothes, accent, likes, dislikes, whatever. The following week, the reason you get bullied changes or you outright get bullied for changing. Why? It’s about power, exercising that power, and abusing others; the bully has a bottomless pit somewhere in their psychology and abuse makes them feel better about it. It was never about the stated reason. You can never make this stop by accommodation, and by all accounts, can only make things worse.