I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it’s like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I’ve found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those autism things you learn to live with?

Edit: since a few people have reached out the app I use is called Kinly Connect

  • DagwoodIII@piefed.socialEnglish
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    2 days ago

    When you say ‘calendars’ do you mean an actual physical wall calendar?

    Find one with pictures you’ll actually want to look at.

    Fill in the birthdays/anniversaries before you put it up.

    I had a boss who kept a giant Playmate calendar in his office for years. His wife said she wasn’t jealous of the yearly Miss June, because he’d never missed their wedding anniversary or any of their kids’ birthdays.