I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.
I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.
I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it’s like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.
Recently I’ve found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those autism things you learn to live with?
Edit: since a few people have reached out the app I use is called Kinly Connect
I try to keep in touch with my friends by doing simple things like sending a meme or two, playing correspondance chess or send short messages about what i found interesting in that day, new thing i’ve learned or even just some screenshot of my high score in game. The point is to do very simple interactions that do not require much reaction or thought from other person. It builds a habit and allows You to reach out to those people much easier when You want to have some bigger talk