I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.
I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.
I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it’s like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.
Recently I’ve found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those autism things you learn to live with?
Edit: since a few people have reached out the app I use is called Kinly Connect
I’ve recently been trying this app called Nametag that helps manage relationships. It has optional reminders if you haven’t interacted with someone in a while. I’m mainly using it for remembering details about people and to remind myself how many people do care about me. It’s open source and took me maybe 5 mins to set up (but I do have experience self-hosting). There’s also a flagship hosted version that’s free for up to 50 people on your network before being $1/month https://nametag.one/
Very similar to the app I use called Kinly Connect, glad you found something that works for you