Genuine question here, am not trying to be edgy or controversial: Which would you least like to happen - be raped, or lose the use of a limb in a road accident?
As a cishet man, I’d take the former (assuming no HIV etc)
That’s not a safe assumption though, and the dread of waiting to find out whether you’ve been infected with something awful is a part of why rape is so traumatising. It can take weeks for tests to come back.
I don’t think that’s really a fair question especially since a vehicle accident is just that: an accident. Being raped is horrifying partially because it’s someone’s choice to do that to you.
Would I prefer to be accidentally injured over being intentionally traumatized and possibly also injured? Yeah, probably.
Additionally, i dont think my main point is clear but ill clarify: I really don’t think people deserve criticism about being afraid when they’re just taking reasonable precautions. Especially in a society that is just not likely to hold a man accountable for sexual misconduct.
A more comparable question is would you rather lose the use of a limb from an accident or have to go under vaginal reconstruction to restore use of urinary function after rape.
I know which is more traumatic. People act like being raped comes with no consequences.
Genuine question here, am not trying to be edgy or controversial: Which would you least like to happen - be raped, or lose the use of a limb in a road accident?
As a cishet man, I’d take the former (assuming no HIV etc)
That’s not a safe assumption though, and the dread of waiting to find out whether you’ve been infected with something awful is a part of why rape is so traumatising. It can take weeks for tests to come back.
I don’t think that’s really a fair question especially since a vehicle accident is just that: an accident. Being raped is horrifying partially because it’s someone’s choice to do that to you.
Would I prefer to be accidentally injured over being intentionally traumatized and possibly also injured? Yeah, probably.
Additionally, i dont think my main point is clear but ill clarify: I really don’t think people deserve criticism about being afraid when they’re just taking reasonable precautions. Especially in a society that is just not likely to hold a man accountable for sexual misconduct.
A more comparable question is would you rather lose the use of a limb from an accident or have to go under vaginal reconstruction to restore use of urinary function after rape.
I know which is more traumatic. People act like being raped comes with no consequences.