• BillyClark@piefed.social
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    His wife is still very attractive, but what if she wasn’t? It wouldn’t mean a goddamn thing, would it?

    Beauty may be the reason why you are attracted to a person in the first place, but it’s not at the top of the list of reasons why you stay with a person.

    It’s hard for me to even imagine being that shallow.

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      Which makes you wonder why people even pick partners based on beauty. It would make more sense to pick them based on personality.

      That being said, I value very much that my girlfriend takes care of herself even with many years in a relationship. She could easily become fat but she exercises and stays fit, and I do the same. For us its important, but its not the main reason we are together.

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        17 hours ago

        I suspect that humans evolved to pick partners based on beauty because beauty is an indicator of health.

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          17 hours ago

          Yeah on the surface level, it says genetics that will give a good looking body, and humans are attracted to beauty.

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        21 hours ago

        Which makes you wonder why people even pick partners based on beauty. It would make more sense to pick them based on personality.

        Demisexual. Yes, we do exist. From anecdotal experience it’s mostly women who are demisexuals.

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          6 hours ago

          Guys face social pressure to avoid certain partners based on looks that they’d otherwise be fine with.

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      1 day ago

      Thank you! I needed to see this comment, the whole premise of this post is icky to me.