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  • This is a pretty nuanced problem, in my opinion. Here are my thoughts:

    1. You’re definitely judging them
    2. I don’t necessarily think it’s wrong to judge them, but it would have to be for different reasons than you state. I would judge them for being personally incompatible with the fundamental tenets of society (ie that you contribute to it and act as a good citizen)
    3. You can’t change the mind of someone who isn’t open to change. One of the things you’ll need to accept is that most people are only willing to learn from their own mistakes, and a good portion of those aren’t even willing to learn from their own mistakes consistently. You will need to wait until they regret their decisions before change can even be possible. And even then be aware that there’s a solid chance that they’ll still keep doing whatever they’ve been doing
    4. It’s good that you’re thinking about this, but on the other hand, it’s not your responsibility to ensure that your friends have good lives. Your responsibility is to yourself, and if you act as though you have responsibility over other people, you come off as nosy, pushy, bossy. Be careful that you don’t confuse advising someone with assuming responsibility over that person.



  • It seems the rules are different for me than for you. I brought my backpack with my laptop. I did work during breaks. Or used my phone. I just made sure all electronics were off when in the court room. And I’m pretty sure I brought my water bottle too. The one thing that the security did enforce was my pepper spray, which I had to remove and hide in a bush outside. I’m not sure if that helps at all.

    One thing you can do is to leave your laptop/things in the car. You can leave the building during breaks and then just come back into the building before the session restarts. That was what most of the jury did during breaks during my time


  • My gut instinct is that your mother may be wanting something else but doesn’t know how to put it into words. Not to say that she right, but I can definitely relate to that emotion.

    Speaking as a person who is close to someone who is depressed, there is a sort of mental drain and negativity-by-diffusion associated with being near someone who is depressed, and it’s really difficult to put into words. I can know full well that depression is a clinical illness and that the other person can’t help it, but I will still get frustrated over their inability to match my energy.

    If your depression and anxiety are as limiting as you say they are, it may be a good idea to talk to a therapist and get some medicine for that. Speaking from my own observations, you can definitely fight depression, but only to a small extent. Severe depression and anxiety are debilitating to the point where you will need medicine just to get close to what a regular person might feel


  • My understanding is that automount is different from what you’ll need. The automount that you’re using is probably mounting when you log in, but you’ll probably want to mount when you turn on the computer.

    For that, you’ll want to edit fstab. That’s a file that tells the system that you need to mount this drive during boot-up. On KDE, there’s a partition manager software that can edit fstab through a GUI, but I’m not sure if there’s something similar in Mint. If not, the file is in /etc/fstab. Make sure to double check for typos when you edit fstab because errors can prevent your computer from booting up properly. Or just be proficient at terminal so that you can undo the changes when you make an error.

    Word of advice: use the nofail option for secondary/storage drives


  • In a similar vein:

    Get a fire ladder if you’re not living on the first floor

    But seriously, learning to use a fire extinguisher needs to be emphasized more. I stopped a fire from becoming serious because I was trained to use a fire extinguisher and I put out the fire quickly. My partner didn’t know what to do and she just handed the fire extinguisher to me. If she were there alone, the building could have burnt down. Or at minimum, all of our possessions could have been damaged.

    It’s easy to learn, but YOU NEED TO LEARN


  • The biggest advice I can give you is, you need to try to be social. It’s easy to hang out with friends in high school because everyone’s locked into the same building every weekday for 6 hours.

    Once you’re an adult, you no longer have that limitation. Even college is more of a “go to class for 2 hours a day then leave afterwards” type of experience. It’s certainly liberating to not be forced to be someplace for long periods of time, but it also means that the primary reason that you hang out with your friends (ie, because they’re already there with you) is now gone. It can make for a very lonely experience.

    You need to go out of your way and actively maintain your friendships. Make plans to meet up at least once a week or something. Otherwise, you won’t really get another chance to make deep friendships



  • Not finicky and Arch-based don’t really go together well.

    Just go with Bazzite or something, the exact distribution doesn’t matter (as long as it’s not Arch). The more important choice is the desktop environment, which is the user experience and looks of the distro. If you’re moving from Windows, I assume you’ll like KDE Plasma. It’s basically Windows 10 but modernized, with a more aesthetic and clean look. (It’s also paralyzingly hypercustomizable, so I would recommend using the default settings initially and slowly learning the settings, rather than diving into the settings headfirst the moment you install)

    I personally use Kubuntu (Ubuntu with KDE Plasma), but it’s slightly more annoying to set up than something like Bazzite



  • I haven’t bothered to check for Proton compatibility at all. The compatibility is so good that I just by default assume that it’ll work.

    Now, if you have online multiplayer games, they likely won’t work due to anticheat not supporting Linux. But if you do single player games, there’s virtually complete compatibility

    Linux Mint is a good choice, works right out of the box. The UI is a bit dated though, so I ended up settling on Kubuntu. It’s very aesthetic (like an updated version of Windows 10), and for the most part it works out of the box, but digging through its settings can be really overwhelming. Basically losing a bit of accessibility but gaining a much more modern aesthetic

    If you choose to use Kubuntu (or any distro that uses KDE Plasma), I would recommend sticking with default settings and learn the settings slowly over time





  • The only reason I know about the incompatibility is because I ran into the exact same issue when I was building a 2600x system with 3200 mhz memory.

    If 5700x is only 15e more, you might as well get it. That seems like a good deal

    For the gpu, it might make sense to look at gpu utilization. It won’t tell you the entire story but it might give some clues as to whether your gpu is bottlenecking/how close it is to bottlenecking. Because it very well could be that your cpu is fine but it’s actually the gpu that’s limiting your performance. In which case you would rather get a gpu but not a cpu


  • I believe the 2600 is incompatible with 3200 Mhz, which is why you’re getting memory stability issues. If you get a 5000 series cpu, you should be able to max out your memory speed.

    5600(x) is a pretty solid cpu. I have a 5600 non-x and it still works fine for all of my games. Not sure if you care, or if the price difference nowadays even makes a difference, but the 5600 is negligibly slower than the 5600x but it’s cheaper. Either way, both should be pretty solid choices. 5700x is fine too, if you care about having more cores. IMO though most games don’t really utilize that many cores to begin with so I don’t care much for it

    The x3d chips are more expensive but they’re way stronger, so my understanding is that most people consider them to be worth the extra money.

    The 580 GPU might be bottlenecking, my understanding is that CS2 is more visually demanding than CS1, though I don’t know how visually demanding it is. The GPU market is a shitshow right now though. I think the best bang-for-your-buck gpu right now might be the 9060xt, but even then it’s a pretty hefty 380 usd. If you do get a new gpu, make sure it has enough vram for your use case. IMO I would just go for 16 gb minimum nowadays