No. Most people don’t care about that age gap.

Though, if there’s a clear power imbalance in a way thats exploitative (in either direction), that could be a problem.

20 years is worthy of other conversations though. Considerations about genuineness, compatibility, and practicality do arise, but those are all personal and situational.

If you don’t feel comfortable, you don’t have to do it. But, being lonely is super toxic for us and I opine that your daughter’s heart is in the right place.

Two adults dating is not a problem

Friend of mine was in a similar situation. One day she said something to him that made him realize he was literally the only person who cared about the age difference.

don’t sweat it. you’re both adults with life experience that is both greater than and equal to.

enjoy the date and be sure to be respectful and treat them as an equal. you can figure out who they are along the way 😉

Itd only be an issue if your daughter cared, past 25 I don’t see why ppl think it’s grooming, most ppls personalities are done baking at 18, sure some ppl grow and mature after that but how many really change at the same rate they do while going to college, some ppl at 30 are way more mature than others, just depends on life experiences, I’ve been thinking about this because I feel like ive stagnated, was growing every year and now its just been 3 years of the same, while ik some ppl that still travel alot, do something new every week and they’re definitely different ppl, have just grown to another point in life.

Creepy? No, probably not, but it does present some potential problems: You probably don’t have a whole lot of things in common at this point. You might not be particularly compatible with regard to your friend groups or your desires for your future. You are in a situation where it’s going to be difficult to get on the same level. These are not insurmountable obstacles, but they are potential obstacles.

That said, if you and she are both okay with it—and your daughter, who is clearly someone whose opinion you care about—then have a great time! Don’t have high expectations, but enjoy yourself and see what happens.

There’s only one person whose opinion on that matters, and she’s aged 30. And maybe your daughter too, but she set it up so that’s unlikely.

You can always find a bunch of weirdos on the internet who’ll be offended at you, no matter who you are or what you do, so it’s never a good idea to not do stuff just because of that.

If you’re worried if you ARE a creep then I’d suggest plugging “what it means to be a creep” or “what is a creep” into your favourite search engine and make sure your regular habits exclude whatever you find. Use several sources, not just the first you find, because not everything on the internet is true.

To some people yes, to many people no.

Just be respectful, kind and considerate. She’s an adult.

Age is just a number. Who cares.

Go get her tiger

I wouldn’t find it creepy, though I probably wouldn’t mask my surprise well if I heard about it. My parents are 18 years apart. There are some social differences but at some point, they must have liked each other enough. They also have differing interests. They’re free to do their own thing (my dad stays home my mom travels the world). But, they’re not a great match anymore (I have to believe they used to be). All of this has combined into a strenuous situation where my mom is planning for her retirement freedom while my dad is probably headed to some kind of assisted living because she’s not going to stay home as a servant. I hate to be a downer about a relationship that hasn’t even started, but I think it’s important to consider this aspect before things get serious

No, you do you

I had a friend that was dating someone 17years her senior, the mom was not happy , was quite upset about it. She said he’s almost as old as she is. Most people will do 5 years at the most. The larger the age gap, the less you have in common of it’s more than 10 years

The big issues with age gaps is mostly down to protective probability. By 30 most folks are experienced enough at life to make up their own mind.

Hope it goes well for you both!

Past 30, age is less about biology and more sociology.

I’m a 49 year old male. But I’m divorced, no kids. Still living a bachelor life quite happily while most guys close to my age are married with the kids and coaching soccer on weekends in a minivan. As a result, my friend group almost exclusively skews younger because those are the people who are in the same stage of life as I am (regardless of biological age).

The same works for relationships. Past a certain point it doesn’t matter how old you are, as long as your sociological age is compatible. (Ie. Your way of life)

Edited to Add: The rule we always learned in highschool when we were stupid kids with nothing better to do is “half your age plus 7”

51 divided by 2 = 25.5 + 7 = 32.5.

So by highschool rules, you’re just a little bit outside the lines, but close enough that if you’re both attractive most people will ignore it.