• outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 days ago

    I just dont date men, don’t smile around men unless it’s mean or im wearing a mask, don’t compliment men even on innocuous things unless they’re like half my age or younger, and yeah, i think about exits a lot.

    This is a superior solution, because it actially works and does not make me a target for that garbage gender’s bullshit.

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        Nope. It’s how i deal.

        If i compliment a man, it won’t stop hitting on me until i get violent or gross. I’m not even that pretty. Maybe a global 6/10, and i live in souyhern california, so I’m a local 3.

        If a man sees me smile it might decide that was flirting, so i only smile in cases where it’s very very clearly not. Then I’ll have to lose it before anything bad happens, do things like hop off a bus just before the doors close (dick move to the driver), climb something (I’m not young, do like nice clothes), or do a ‘frogger’ larp, which is only about half as dangerpus as letting it follow me home¹.

        And i absolutely don’t date them; im not cursed to have no other option sexually, so why the fuck would i defile myself with that one?

        The exits thing is mixed with other stuff, various ptsd sources, but i expect I’d have put it together just existing around so many monsters like that.

        ¹which is wild. Again; im not particularly beautiful. About half of all houses contain a woman. This should not be a danger, and yet i regularly need to get all cloak and dagger to deal with almost half the population! Because of course none of them understand “no”! Not when a woman says it!