22F here, almost 2 weeks ago I had unprotected sex w/ this one guy I was friends with for a tiny bit (I mean we both know he only wanted sex, he tried multiple times and I ended up not wanting to) then one day I got upset and I sometimes have sex to cope w my life problems (ik it’s not healthy and I’m not doing it again)…

Anyways, a few days after I started having a mild sore throat and I felt a bit tired/like my body was gonna get sick but I didn’t (I was also working at a retirement hone) anyways, yesterday after work I noticed a lump on my vaginal bikini line but now it’s more flat (I can’t tell if it’s a lymph node or ingrown?) I haven’t shaved for a few days so idk how it can be ingrown now? But I also had mild mild itchyness in one area on my vagina and was a small tiny red dot… I also got my period today too. I also have had very very mild nausea for the past week too which is weird… Anyways, he’s a douche bag and he barely even answered me after we had sex so I blocked him. I asked him prior to sex if he’s clean and stuff and he said yes and that he wasn’t sleeping w anyone else ant the time and he wouldn’t lie cuz it would mean disrespecting me. I know I shouldn’t have believed him anyways. I’m rlly ashamed and disappointed with myself for sleeping with someone whom I know doesn’t respect me… idk when the best time to test is, it’ll mark 2 weeks since sex on the 14th of December.

  • hardcoreufo@lemmy.world
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    9 hours ago

    Yes, get checked out ASAP. I feel like I always get a little sick when sleeping with someone for the first time even with protection. Probably just from swapping spit. It’s probably not HIV but testing is a must.

    I’d recommend against googling/webMD/chat boting symptoms, they seem to always say you have HIV, cancer or Lupus no matter what you put in. Its driven me crazy on more than one occasion until I learned to go to the doctor first.

    Edit: If you think this guy has HIV and is knowingly spreading it you should ask the clinic about it. Lots of States/countries have laws about that. Not sure about where you live. It will at least protect other women from him in the future.