22F here, almost 2 weeks ago I had unprotected sex w/ this one guy I was friends with for a tiny bit (I mean we both know he only wanted sex, he tried multiple times and I ended up not wanting to) then one day I got upset and I sometimes have sex to cope w my life problems (ik itās not healthy and Iām not doing it again)ā¦
Anyways, a few days after I started having a mild sore throat and I felt a bit tired/like my body was gonna get sick but I didnāt (I was also working at a retirement hone) anyways, yesterday after work I noticed a lump on my vaginal bikini line but now itās more flat (I canāt tell if itās a lymph node or ingrown?) I havenāt shaved for a few days so idk how it can be ingrown now? But I also had mild mild itchyness in one area on my vagina and was a small tiny red dotā¦ I also got my period today too. I also have had very very mild nausea for the past week too which is weirdā¦ Anyways, heās a douche bag and he barely even answered me after we had sex so I blocked him. I asked him prior to sex if heās clean and stuff and he said yes and that he wasnāt sleeping w anyone else ant the time and he wouldnāt lie cuz it would mean disrespecting me. I know I shouldnāt have believed him anyways. Iām rlly ashamed and disappointed with myself for sleeping with someone whom I know doesnāt respect meā¦ idk when the best time to test is, itāll mark 2 weeks since sex on the 14th of December.
Go to a doctor. Theyāre good for this kind of stuff, better than the Internet even.
Once youāve seen a doctor to get clarity on your lump, you might consider checking out a therapist too. Therapy can be very healing if you get a good therapist, and is totally worth it.
I canāt afford therapy and Iāve tried some free therapy and it wasnāt effective at all. Most of these issues root from me having a bad relationship with my dad in the past and being so emotionally deprived of male love š I donāt know how a therapist can help that. Me and my dad are good now and have been for awhile.
Find a therapist that works on a sliding scale. You have options. Donāt give up!
For what itās worth, itās almost certainly nothing. That being said, testing is free. Get it done to be sure. Be honest with your symptoms and donāt be shy, we literally donāt care.
Ask your Dr. they will be able to tell you when to test and set you up with an appt. to get it done. If you donāt have a regular Dr., no insurance, etc. Check with your local health dept.
Iām kinda embarrassed to askā¦ I ask quite often because I regularly get tested. Iāve always been negative thankfully prior but Iām worried now with this guyā¦ there are health clinics that do testing for free and I think I can go there, so I will probably just go there to save some anxiety from asking my doctor again.
Doctors donāt give a damn. No need to be embarrassed. Plus, itās your health on the line, youāre more important than whatever you believe the doctor is thinking. You matter, please understand that.
Changes of it being hiv are probably pretty low, but get checked anyway. If you have spots and lumps on your vg thatās a sign something could be going on. Better safe than sorry with these things!
Yes, get checked out ASAP. I feel like I always get a little sick when sleeping with someone for the first time even with protection. Probably just from swapping spit. Itās probably not HIV but testing is a must.
Iād recommend against googling/webMD/chat boting symptoms, they seem to always say you have HIV, cancer or Lupus no matter what you put in. Its driven me crazy on more than one occasion until I learned to go to the doctor first.
Edit: If you think this guy has HIV and is knowingly spreading it you should ask the clinic about it. Lots of States/countries have laws about that. Not sure about where you live. It will at least protect other women from him in the future.
Could be nothing, but a swollen lymph node and a general feeling of malaise can be a sign of a new HIV infection. Fortunately treatable these days, but you really want to get some labs done.
