You don’t need sex to have a kid, actually. There’s the adoption process and IVF as well. Both would also technically be “trying for a baby”, but people usually are more specific when talking about those.
That was exactly my point. It absolutely qualifies as “trying to/working on having a kid”, definitely as much or more so than tracking cycles for unprotected sex. Similar for the IVF process.
Making a kid probably takes a year (<3 months to try and conceive, 9 months for pregnancy) or so, unless you have issues with fertility. Adoption can take, like, a decade, assuming that you are considered a suitable adoptive parent in the first place. (I’m pretty sure that many places discriminate against disabled people here, and almost everywhere you have to be married.)
my point is that it makes no sense for a couple to announce that they just started having sex and there’s no pregnancy yet. when there is now, or if they have been trying for long without success, that could be newsworthy, but otherwise it’s literally just announcing that you two started having unprotected sex.
They probably started the conversation because it’s a big topic for them. It’s a huge decision to make and they want to share it with others. They probably want to talk about the family plans they have, not the practical sex part - but if they did want to talk about sex, there’s nothing wrong about thar either.
but if they did want to talk about sex, there’s nothing wrong about thar either.
It’s wild that this gets pushback here.
The incel adjacent portion of the left is pretty strong and you can find them in droves on Lemmy, it’s amazing how much pushback healthy relationships and sexuality gets on this site, but as long as you chant the same things as other progressives you get a pass for having attitudes that are destructive to society. I’m not sure why we’ve allowed this segment to go unchallenged for as long as we have.
Sexual insecurity is the tool of fascism, it’s not a valid identity to embrace.
Also why does having a baby automatically have to be about the sex? Yes you need sex to have one but thats not the point. People want kids.
You don’t need sex to have a kid, actually. There’s the adoption process and IVF as well. Both would also technically be “trying for a baby”, but people usually are more specific when talking about those.
Which just means sex is even more besides the point of having a baby so no need to be so weird about it.
That said It’s pretty important in sex education to acknowledge that babies can result from PIV sex.
Do you know how many years it takes to adopt a kid, assuming that you actually do get to adopt one and aren’t turned down?
That was exactly my point. It absolutely qualifies as “trying to/working on having a kid”, definitely as much or more so than tracking cycles for unprotected sex. Similar for the IVF process.
It’s work and it’s not easy.
Making a kid probably takes a year (<3 months to try and conceive, 9 months for pregnancy) or so, unless you have issues with fertility. Adoption can take, like, a decade, assuming that you are considered a suitable adoptive parent in the first place. (I’m pretty sure that many places discriminate against disabled people here, and almost everywhere you have to be married.)
they did not say they’re having a baby. they’re trying to have a baby. no baby yet, but they are doing things to have one
Yes, people have sex and it’s perfectly alright to talk about it. There’s nothing bad about being open in that front.
I really dont see your point.
Their point is they have sexual hangups.
my point is that it makes no sense for a couple to announce that they just started having sex and there’s no pregnancy yet. when there is now, or if they have been trying for long without success, that could be newsworthy, but otherwise it’s literally just announcing that you two started having unprotected sex.
They probably started the conversation because it’s a big topic for them. It’s a huge decision to make and they want to share it with others. They probably want to talk about the family plans they have, not the practical sex part - but if they did want to talk about sex, there’s nothing wrong about thar either.
It’s wild that this gets pushback here.
The incel adjacent portion of the left is pretty strong and you can find them in droves on Lemmy, it’s amazing how much pushback healthy relationships and sexuality gets on this site, but as long as you chant the same things as other progressives you get a pass for having attitudes that are destructive to society. I’m not sure why we’ve allowed this segment to go unchallenged for as long as we have.
Sexual insecurity is the tool of fascism, it’s not a valid identity to embrace.